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Author:  Road_Runner [ Tue Oct 05, 2010 10:04 am ]
Post subject:  Good friend is afraid of losing friendship
Hi guys

I've been able to build up my game pretty well during the past couple of years and once I feel a girl is at letting me take a first step or at least considering, I can usually confidently play my cards and come to a close quickly.

The reason I'm asking you for advice though is a kind of "left-over" from my AFC days: a girl I've known for 12 years. 10 years ago, I've made some advances to take her out to the movies, innocent as I was, and she turned me down because she appartly just met her boyfriend-to-be. Well, we've become close friends, at least, and regularly go out and talk openly about guys&girls, discuss our sex lives, etc. So she knows pretty much everything about my PUA life...

Now she's single and I've pulled the right strings to let her know I'm still attracted to her and would love to get more intimate, not have a fixed relationship though. Last night I was at her place, cooking something together, and got a little closer. When I tried to kiss her she admitted that she'd like to (and would also sleep with me), but she's afraid of losing me as a good friend and won't have anyone to discuss her girl problems openly.

I have nother good female friend who was in that situation once and who was surprised how little our friendship changed after having sex regularly. The girl I'm currently talking about is more the kind of girl who seeks relationships though. How can I convince her that having sex with me isn't going to trash our friendship without giving her the impression of being talked into it? She's a smart gal, a lawyer, so I have to be a little cautious. Any ideas on how to win her over? All input is highly appreciated :-)

Thanx
Author:  zrsahai [ Wed Oct 06, 2010 2:07 am ]
Post subject:  BALLS
you ARE the man in this relationship, right? lol
when she says something like "you're not going to change on me, rite?" TEASE HER
she's testing you!!! ask her if she has to check in with the facebook gov't about her relationship status lol does it matter who she fucks
the key word with this type of woman is "connect"
next time you guys are talking and you have some really good banter or accomplish a goal or find a solution to a problem, look surprised, SMILE, and touch her on the arm or back and say "WOW, i feel like we connect so well. we really make a great team"
say it like you just realized it's destiny that you guys are meant for eachother
smile smile smile
Author:  STeeez [ Fri Oct 08, 2010 1:47 pm ]
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Been having the exact same problem. She makes out that sexual relations with her is going to ruin the friendship, and I also don't know how to go about it. She wants to but that is the only thing holding her back, If you have made progress please tell me how.
Peace
Author:  Road_Runner [ Sun Oct 10, 2010 9:47 am ]
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As I said, she's a close friend and a damn smart girl, not some chick at a club that'd fall for negs and teasing. And besides, building up attration is not the problem, I just have to get past her logical thinking and somehow get rid of her fear that "everything's going to change between the two of us".

I'm meeting her again this Friday (Oct 15) and I'll be damned sure to get another shot at this dilemma ;-) and of course I'll also keep you posted how it goes and hopefully find some remedy for situations like this one :-D
Author:  Chief [ Mon Oct 11, 2010 3:38 pm ]
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A Sticking Point or SP is an issue you CONSISTENTLY run into.

It is NOT a point where you get stuck with ONE SPECIFIC GIRL.

A Sticking Point is:
Quote:
I keep getting LMR whenever I bring girls back to my place. This has happened at least 10 times already! What am I doing wrong?
A Sticking Point is NOT:
Quote:
I got LMR with this one girl! What do I do?
Threads about one specific situation in the Sticking Points board will be subject to locking and maybe even humiliation.
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