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| Author: | Checkfigure1 [ Fri Sep 17, 2010 7:07 pm ] |
| Post subject: | My fiance says she doesn't want to have sex anymore |
My fiance and I both live back with our parents to save money so we can get married. Ever since she moved back with her parents at the start of this month, she has been really depressed and very stressed. The first couple of days we had sex at my parents house, but it has been almost 2 weeks since the last time we did it. Things used to be up and down in our sex life for a while, but after working hard we managed to do it on average about 8 times per month this year. I was totally cool with that. Now that she is back at her parents house, everything has changed. She feels it is wrong to have sex at our parents house. Tonight she undressed for me down to only her panties and started making out with me. She is really turned on and says "Baby, we shouldn't do this anymore". I said " Babe, you are right, this is totally wrong". In a playful tone. She says "Why do you say it like that"? I said "Because you're right", then left it at that. I didn't know exactly how to respond, but I knew that I shouldn't say anything that would lead her to believe I was mad we aren't having sex. I don't know if this is some sort of LMR she is giving me or if she genuinely doesn't want to have sex anymore? I would like to believe it is LMR since 1) We have had sex at my parents house 2) She was hot and horny on me tonight. What is the right way to handle a situation like this? I mean we have had a great sex life for most of this year so far, but now she is pulling this shit. thanks |
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| Author: | roma [ Fri Sep 17, 2010 7:30 pm ] |
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mate i can only tell you what i do.. or would do under these circumstance... she is obviously feeling insecure about having sex in her parents house, right? so take her out of there spend a weekend away, just the two of you doesnt need to be expensive doesnt need to be far just somewhere where you guys can be alone and away from your parents.. sounds kinda corny but i suggest a roadtrip, romantic dinner/picnic and a late movie... hope that helps goodluck |
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| Author: | Checkfigure1 [ Sat Sep 18, 2010 4:12 am ] |
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Thanks roma  That is a really good idea. It has been about 2 weeks since we last had sex. I am just worried that she wont want to do it once we are alone in a hotel room. We have been at each others house several times since we last had sex. In those times, she doesn't seem interested in sex. Do you think that doing a freeze out will get her to cave? thanks 
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| Author: | Straight Up [ Sat Sep 18, 2010 9:07 am ] |
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Quote: I am just worried that she wont want to do it once we are alone in a hotel room.
Thats what the romantic picnic and that is, get her heated up but dont make her get tired on the late night movie.. i dont suggest a full out action movie to keep her awake just not one thatll make her tired and say.."im feeling tired, maybe tomorrow" Keep the day romantic, spontaneous, and then hope to god she feels horny as soon as you get to the hotel! Good luck |
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| Author: | here2play [ Sat Sep 18, 2010 5:40 pm ] |
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Quote: Thanks roma
That is a good idea. Several years ago my wife and I moved back home and ended up staying at her parents house for several weeks and we hardly ever even touched each other and we were full grown adults that had been married 10 years and had kids. Women's parents = the biggest cockblockers known to man!!! That is a really good idea. It has been about 2 weeks since we last had sex. I am just worried that she wont want to do it once we are alone in a hotel room. We have been at each others house several times since we last had sex. In those times, she doesn't seem interested in sex. Do you think that doing a freeze out will get her to cave? thanks Give this a try - don't talk about it or ask for ideas and certainly don't ask for permission. -Make a reservation at a nice hotel, preferably one with a jacuzzi tub big enough for two in the room. - Make a reservation for dinner for two at a nice sit-down restaurant. - If you think it will help, check out the theater listings for some popular chick-flick. If you don't think it will help, dont do it. Or if she is a dancer check out some local dance clubs (again if you think she will like it) - then call her during the day and tell her you have some plans for the night and that she needs to pack an overnight bag and get all dressed up all elegent and sexy. - If she interogates you for details or offers any resistance or reasons why she can't (and she will do this) tell her you are going to be pick her up at 6 and to be ready by then, and then say "see you then" in a pleasant and seductive voice and hang up the phone. - Pick her up, take her to the restaurant, hold open doors for her, walk her in arm and arm, pull out her chair etc etc While at dinner look her in the eye with a warm smile, hold her hand and talk to her about "just stuff" you can be romantic and charming but do NOT say anything overtly sexual or make any c'mons or passes. Do NOT make this about sex! Dont even mention sex! Make this about taking out your special lady for a special evening. - after dinner take her to the movie (if you think it will help) or take her out dancing at a club (if you think it will help) -All during the evening do NOT come on to her but DO start with the kino escalation. At some point in the evening when the spirit moves you to do so, look her in the eyes and put your arms and kiss her warmly for a several seconds but then break it off and go on about what you were doing. Keep up the kino in an affectionate but not overtly sexual manner for the evening. -then take her to the hotel and once the door is closed behind you, do not let her draw you into a bitch session or talk about mundane vanilla things. Either the conversation is romantic or sexual or you don't talk. Then increase the kino to sexual and SEDUCE her. (NOTE: this may seem cheesy, supplicating and AFCish, but it is not. This is a woman that you have an established sexual relationship with and you are showing her that you can treat her like a queen and aren't afraid to do so) One of two things will happen if you do this. The first is that the dam will break and you two will be fucking like rabbits. That is GOOD! and that is a good sign. That means that she is being cockblocked by her parents and that is something that is hopefully temporary and you can live with. The other thing that may happen is she will clam up and still be a cold fish. If that happens after all of that, that means that there is something wrong with her, something wrong with you or something wrong with your relationship that is preventing her from sexually expressing herself. This is a BAD sign and one that you will need to take seriously. |
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| Author: | bradjackson [ Thu Sep 23, 2010 3:16 am ] |
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I wish this wasn't as big of a problem as it is but the good news is that it can be pretty easy to solve. Many women love romance novels and other types of stories that intrigue them and get their emotions running high. It's very easy to trigger a woman's sexuality early in a relationship...later on it can be much harder because there's nothing exciting or unexpected. The single easiest and cheapest method to get her going again is through a series of well crafted text messages that allow her to get incrementally turned on and excited again and wonder what you have planned. Michael Fiore is an advertising copywriter and he's a master of languages and a world class master with women. He knows how to get them turned on. Here is a video where he talks about exactly how to use text messages to get your wife/fiance'/girlfriend turned on...even if you suck at writing. http://bit.ly/97EPqN As mentioned, I own this and can attest that it works EVEN if you're not dating a chic or married to her. PM me if you want more details. |
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| Author: | Sticksie [ Thu Sep 23, 2010 10:44 am ] |
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Personaly (now this isnt a very standard PUA thing to do and it depends on your girl aswell) I would just pin her down to the bed and do my thing. They fucking love it. There seems to be some PUA misconception about tricking a womans cloths off her is the only way to do it. Girls like dominance dont they. Well dominate her. PS: use your own sence of judgment in this type of thing. In other words NOT RAPE but ravishment. |
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| Author: | Shyler [ Thu Sep 23, 2010 12:21 pm ] |
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I think that you guys are stuck in a routine (not the pua routine), and you have to break out of it. There is nothing exhilirating in living with her in your parents house and doing nothing. So, one day, be very spontaneous and energetic, and take her: 1) on a romantic date, like a restaurant like others said before me or 2) on a trip to somewhere: a day or few days off to a city, the beach, whatever and/or 3) on a wild date. Go to a place or town where there are a lot of facilities. Go out drink a cocktail somewhere in a chill bar at the beachside or in a lounge bar and then go clubbing with her. It's fun and since you are together you probably don't club anymore like you used to when you were younger. So here she can go loose (with you) and go dancing with you, where you can work your kino, dance skills and magic on her, so that the sexual tension will rise and you will have wild sex afterwards
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