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| Author: | bassman2001 [ Thu Jun 03, 2010 9:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Need some help/advice. Girl that once liked me now doesn't. |
Alright so I joined this forum so I could get some advice. I have a lot going for me. I'm a musician in a band that is doing pretty well for ourselves, I dress really good (so i"ve been told), and girls like to say I'm good looking. I have a great social status and there's always a few girls after me at a given time. Please don't take this in a conceited way. Anyways, I go to a hair salon that my friend works at probably about once every 5 weeks or so. Her friend who also works at the salon noticed me one day and basically crushed on me ever since. For the last 2 months or so my friend has been inviting me out to various social events so I can meet and hang out with this girl. I could really tell she liked me, a lot. She is very attractive too, might I add. Anyways, since she would be texting me all the time and showing me attention I didn't really have to put in much effort. We'd all watch movies and she'd make sure she sat beside me, and she'd sit very close to me, eventually resting her head on my shoulder and stuff. Clearly she had feelings for me and I was feeling the same for her, but not showing any signs of neediness. There's a guy in my circle of friends that doesn't like me, and he's out to snake me with any girl i come close too. Just the way he is. Anyways, in the last 2 weeks he's been around quite a bit, hitting on her and always giving me a douche-bag smile when doing so. Last weekend we were at a big BBQ and he was hitting on her like crazy...I failed the test and I showed signs of being jealous. Not really that big, I just was really quiet and I'd frequently watch her and him talk and what not. The next day her mannerisms and attitude towards me changed night and day. We went for a walk that night, alone and she told me that she just wants to be single right now, enjoy being free, if you will. She said she feels like I'm watching her every move, but thats not the reason she's pulling back. She was in a relationship for 5 years before and her boyfriend cheaeted on her. (this was 8 months before we met). Anyways. I'm just confused. Because at first this girl would be jumping up and down in her salon when i'd text her and all her friends were telling me she's in love, then one day she completely changes her mind. Currently we'll text every 3 days or so. And its nothing major. She won't come out to social hang outs anymore. She came to a baseball game last night with this other guy thats out to get me, but I showed no signs of jealousy. Just wondering if you guys have any advice for me, how I can get her back? Thanks! |
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| Author: | chrispb7 [ Fri Jun 04, 2010 5:11 pm ] |
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well this happens a lottt. for one, i could be wrong, but if your honest with your self, one of the main reasons you want her back to because you lost control over the situation and you want that control back. this has happened to me a couple times, and there is no sure fire way to handle it. it really depends on why she pulled away, but i would just give her space. i know you wont want to hear this but through my experience, the best thing to do is to completely move on. if you keep hanging around hoping for her, you'll just feel like shit even longer. hope i helped man |
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| Author: | Asserter [ Thu Jun 10, 2010 2:24 pm ] |
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Drop it dude, cut your losses and move on. Don't cling, ever. You'll potentially get her jealous if you show her you don't care and have moved on to other girls which shows you are alpha, you don't wait for things to happen you make them happen. The snakey douche will also second guess his decision to steal her from you, when you show (with your actions) that, basically, "you don't care, take her, she's all yours" which lowers her value in his mind. Its better than sitting around hoping for something that may or may not happen. |
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