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| Author: | Little Panda [ Fri Feb 12, 2010 4:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | My first unusual sticking point |
I've been gaming this girl from my class , for a while now. This is what I experienced during the gaming: She is completely afraid of kino/touch EXCEPT for hugs. But only "hello" hugs. Absolutely no other sorts of hugs. Some days she's happy to talk to me. Some others, it looks like she's in pain or something. She NEVER EVER answers text messages or takes the initiative to text anybody but her friends (girl-friends). Now this is the information I've gotten so far that has solved this mystery: Apparently, she's been having some really difficult relationships in the past. However, she doesn't trust ANYONE to tell about her relationships. So I don't know what exactly happened back then. ... I don't know how to engage from here. I just know she's been in pain in her previous relationships. I've tried massive attraction: It doesn't work. I've tried to slightly show interest (carefully): ... It pushes her away and she gets scared. So I was thinking: Is maybe comfort the answer here? ... I think I'm on the right track - I just need some further ideas that can be expanded to how I'm gonna proceed in this situation. |
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| Author: | ~Finesse [ Fri Feb 12, 2010 5:27 pm ] |
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Have you tried opening YOURSELF to her? Let her see she has an effect on you, and that you are open to trust her with stuff. IF you trust her, she is more likely to trust you. Show her that you too, just like her, have weaknesses. Just a thought. 1 ~Finesse |
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| Author: | ~Finesse [ Fri Feb 12, 2010 10:54 pm ] |
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Just a thought.
...and another one...Try making her worries, your worries. For example... if she's worried about opening up, you will say it first, or in a different way, you will express to her that you're worried about opening up about stuff to people blah blah because of blah blah. That way, she feels you both have the same worry or whatever, so it should settle her worries a bit. and as a final thought... if all she's objecting to is talking about her past relationships, do you really want to be talking about her past relationships? So be careful about just trying to get her to talk about her past relationships, it could be useful to here about it briefly... just to guage what issues there are, but do NOT dwell on it in any way shape or form, you don't want her focussing on that stuff with you. 1 ~Finesse |
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| Author: | spinstill [ Sat Feb 13, 2010 6:02 am ] |
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sounds hot and cold, game her a bit, then hang back and let her come to you |
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