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| Author: | Melodical [ Thu Feb 04, 2010 8:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Handling the" I have a boyfriend" response. |
The "I have a boyfriend response" can stop a seduction dead in it's tracks but its not as big a hurdle as it might seem at first,the reasons are.... 1/ It's probably an autopilot response to your approach,HB9+s do it dozens of times a night at practically an unconscious level so don't take it personaly. 2/ You probably didn't create sufficient value or disqualify your self enough to drop DHV's;girls will cheat on their BF's if they're attracted to you enough. How you get round it is called a "negative correlation disqualifier" :example Tall blonde girl: "I have a boyfriend" PUA : "your not a petite latina so I wouldn't worry about it,have you noticed [presupposition/attentional refocus] that blah blah DHV etc etc Basically you disqualify her physiological type by expressing a preference for the opposite,and she will feel lower value for inferring you had attraction towards her which she will now try to create to build her value back up to yours. |
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| Author: | wisconsinman [ Sun Feb 07, 2010 4:16 pm ] |
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.....I would not say this too a girl, it comes off as a little awkward man. Just go for something short, sweet and alpha. Girl says "You know I have a boyfriend" Boy "And I have a girlfriend, but that doesn't mean that they have too know about us running off to Mexico together" (said in a joking voice) Bam, and your off into a Roleplay routine. Good Luck 
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| Author: | quinn013 [ Tue Feb 09, 2010 2:34 am ] |
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Quote: .....I would not say this too a girl, it comes off as a little awkward man.
good one lol. but honestly if you game it right (the right words and attitude) they shouldnt bring the guy up at all, and in some cases she'll forget she has one.
Just go for something short, sweet and alpha. Girl says "You know I have a boyfriend" Boy "And I have a girlfriend, but that doesn't mean that they have too know about us running off to Mexico together" (said in a joking voice) Bam, and your off into a Roleplay routine. Good Luck |
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| Author: | Moonlight604 [ Thu Feb 11, 2010 7:40 am ] |
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I find a good response to this is "ah i see, its pretty serious then is it? " then with w/e answer she gives me i respond woth 'aha well, u gotta keep ur options open then don'tcha :p' being really cheeky and playful, then segway onto something else. but on that note, I like to gauge her reaction when shes telling me her answer. If she has to think about it, thenu have a alighly better chance t get the #. But in my expierence when that line is dropped, I can't be bothered to dance around so i just move on, because the chick is going to 9 times out of 10 flake on ur followup.
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| Author: | FlyGuy [ Thu Feb 11, 2010 11:13 am ] |
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Her: I have a boyfriend Me: Shit, how long have you had this problem ? |
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| Author: | spinstill [ Thu Feb 11, 2010 9:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Handling the" I have a boyfriend" response. |
Quote: The "I have a boyfriend response" can stop a seduction dead in it's tracks but its not as big a hurdle as it might seem at first,the reasons are....
1/ It's probably an autopilot response to your approach,HB9+s do it dozens of times a night at practically an unconscious level so don't take it personaly. 2/ You probably didn't create sufficient value or disqualify your self enough to drop DHV's;girls will cheat on their BF's if they're attracted to you enough. How you get round it is called a "negative correlation disqualifier" :example Tall blonde girl: "I have a boyfriend" PUA : "your not a petite latina so I wouldn't worry about it,have you noticed [presupposition/attentional refocus] that blah blah DHV etc etc Basically you disqualify her physiological type by expressing a preference for the opposite,and she will feel lower value for inferring you had attraction towards her which she will now try to create to build her value back up to yours. I hear alot of guy talking about this auto response, girls will naturally respond with themselves if you don't set off that auto respond. Turning a girl off is what sets it off. If youre having problems in one area of your game its probably due to an earlier step. so work on your game if you find yourself getting that alot |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Thu Feb 11, 2010 11:19 pm ] |
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And I have a hamster. I win, you lose. |
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| Author: | Smartbomb [ Mon Feb 15, 2010 5:46 pm ] |
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In this situation I'd show disinterest, neg her and then continue talking to her friends or switch to someone else. If your frame is tight she will come climbing back in. |
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| Author: | Xafc [ Mon Nov 22, 2010 8:15 pm ] |
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Best response is not to respond. Keep talking, showing you're unaffected by whatever tests she throws at you. Second best response to IHAB I ever heard was: "Why are you telling me this?" It turns the tables beautifully. If she gives some variant of "You seemed interested," then you can neg with "You're a little presumptuous." If she says nothing, you shrug with a puzzled look that conveys "What's with this chick" and change the subject. No matter how she responds, she DLVs and you DHV! Beautiful! |
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| Author: | Melodical [ Sun Dec 05, 2010 2:39 pm ] |
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I like it! You're collapsing her frame which infers your value is higher than hers and also your social skill are more acute. Nice one. |
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| Author: | _Lothario_ [ Mon Dec 06, 2010 7:38 am ] |
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She'll bring up the boyfriend BECAUSE she wants you. IT DOESN'T MATTER. It's so cliche, but it's just as true. Why? Because you're just having a good conversation and making a connection with a person that has a vagina. She shouldn't have even qualified for you yet in the first place. I get thrown off when a girl drops the boyfriend bomb because I'm actually kind of offended. Every hot bitch at the bar expects you to want to fuck them because they're hot. If they are attracted to you, and you don't like them, they're still hot and they want to get fucked. You are now the target. The boyfriend bomb is almost always a form of this behavior. If you're not yet interested, be offended. She basically just said "you're trying to fuck me." If you're trying to fuck her just ignore it and don't poke any further. The details of the boyfriend are of no importance to you. If she's flirting and you're not buying her drinks then it doesn't matter. If the relationship was solid she wouldn't need to fill the void at the bar, and she wouldn't need to make sure she can still get hit on so she knows she's "still got it." 1. If you haven't hit on her at all and you're just behaving like you normally would with any female regardless of her or your marital status, which may or may not be relatively overly flirtatious in nature, then be slightly offended. It's just how you are. 2. If you're going direct and out for a lay, don't feel bad about the boyfriend. He doesn't matter. Smart ass comments about it will only lead to more teasing which will get her to do one thing and one thing only, think about her boyfriend. That leads to a much more difficult LMR problem later on. |
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| Author: | PokerNight [ Tue Dec 07, 2010 1:57 pm ] |
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How about this respone: And I have a TV at home, but I still go to the cinema. As in her BF is the TV and you are the cinema  Translated from my language so may not sound that good in english. |
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