Hi! I am new as well, but welcome to the forum
I have/had the same problem as you are describing. I've searched for a solution. I think I found it for me, but I'm still field testing and working on my calibration. So keep this in the back of your mind while reading the rest of my post.
I wrote a post about this yesterday. You can find it when you copy&paste this link in your browser: showing-intent-vt59711.html?highlight=
I will quickly summarize it. When you start to qualify a girl, and she answers your questions (so when she is willing to qualify to you), you can return that by showing some interest. This can be done verbally ("Wow, I really like that about you") and/or with kino (hug her for instance).
Since this is your first post: Are you familiar with the terms qualification and kino?
How to know what to say when, and how to touch her. Hopefully you have some kind of intuition to follow, but otherwise this will come with experience (calibration).
Personally I like this rule of thumb: "Match the sexual chemistry the girl is giving you and up it a little bit".
Hope this helps with your problem. Like I said: I am still trying to consciously do this, but up until now this works wonders for me! Good luck and if you have any question, feel free to ask!
Dutch Student