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Author:  Randomly [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 1:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Being opened on
Hi,

Last night in town. I went to a bar and i didnt even think about sarging etc. i was just there with friends.
Now as i enter i walk past a 5 set of girls and one of them opens on me.
I have sort of Beatles-ish hair only a bit longer and she was asking where the other beatles were etc.
Anyway i didnt really know what to say to here so i told her i had to get to my friends.

An hour or so later i get opened on by a 3 set.
Pretty much same story only they kept trying to unbutton my shirt haha wtf.

So i guess one of the sticking points i got is freezing up when im opened on.
Is there anyone who could tell me how to keep my cool when im overwhelmed by (multiple)girls opening on me?


And well to end the story of what happened that night.
As i walked away from the 3 set that opened on me this guy comes to me and goes like: are you gay? Dont you see these girls like you.
And i said: nah look at this.
At that moment i saw an HB8 wich i kissed after 5 minutes of talking and that guy wants to be teached how i did that haha. So its not a problem if i open.
Author:  Conker [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 2:35 pm ]
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When I have situations that go real well, and others that don't, I always think about what was different about them.

In what way do you feel different when it's multiple girls?
Author:  Randomly [ Sun Dec 20, 2009 2:52 pm ]
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When I have situations that go real well, and others that don't, I always think about what was different about them.

In what way do you feel different when it's multiple girls?
Well its not the fact that its multiple girls. I usually open on bigger sets anyway cause i really think thats easier.

Its just the fact that they open on me and i sort of panic
Author:  Conker [ Mon Dec 21, 2009 4:17 pm ]
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Well this is a question I can only help you answer yourself,I can't give you the answer because I don't know why you panic. When a girl opens me, I'm like "Fuck yeah, that was easy - let's go!" saves me time, and I go right into my thing.

If you go back and re-live being opened in your head, can you explain how you feel? Why are you panicing?

Can't you try just ignoring the fact that she opened you and then turn to her and start talking as if you're opening her? If not, why?
Author:  Randomly [ Mon Dec 21, 2009 9:16 pm ]
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Well. I think my game requires me to have a lot of control.
And when i girl opens on me i dont really know how to control the situation.
At day when i get opened on everything is fine though.

I guess it might be something i will learn in time
Author:  Demagogue [ Thu Dec 31, 2009 8:13 pm ]
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I tend to get opened on a lot so ill just run you through what I initially do and hopefully that will help. When I get opened on the first things I usually do are to check my posture and body language, while giving any suitable response to whatever they said. I usually will take a seat if their is one in the area, but if not ill just take up a relaxed pose that kind of leans away from the ladies. Now, im more into natural game, so from there i just let it all flow; but checking my posture and body language tends to cool my nerves and get me thinking right for whatever reason.

Good luck :)
Author:  Conker [ Fri Jan 01, 2010 1:48 am ]
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Quote:
Well. I think my game requires me to have a lot of control.
And when i girl opens on me i dont really know how to control the situation.
At day when i get opened on everything is fine though.

I guess it might be something i will learn in time
But it sounds like you are panicing. If you are good with attracting girls, but literaly don't respond when they open you, that sounds like freezing up with fear to me.

I think you have to work out why it bothers, you or just simply convince yourself not to be bothered by it (that approach works for my fears)


If you need control, why can't you just take back control? What's stopping you?
Author:  Randomly [ Fri Jan 01, 2010 1:22 pm ]
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I guess you are right.

Ill try the thing you said.
I'll convince myself i am not bothered by it.

Thanks!
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