PUA Forum
https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/

not sure where to post this
https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=56&t=55966		 Page 1 of 1
Author:  cobain23 [ Tue Nov 17, 2009 12:45 am ]
Post subject:  not sure where to post this
so i'll admit that this is a bit balsy but here it goes...... i am a 23 y/o afc w/ an extra challenge, i was born with a dissablity. my situation is quite mild and i am completely cogently capable with an above average IQ. in fact, the only way anyone would know i have issues is that i walk funny, w/ slightly bent knees and a noticeable limp.
i am having trouble battling the stigma with my situation and women seem quite surprised when i ask them out. i make friends no problem but they seemed shocked if i want something more.

my question is three fold:
1. do you think that this situation makes my goal impossible/ do pua tactics not apply because i walk funny?
2. how can i help women see past my situation and take me seriously?
3. do any of you know someone who has also faced challanges and has been successful with females?

keep in mind that i AM A NORMAL PERSON and am not looking for pity, so be completly honest whatever your response
Author:  Coolkid [ Thu Nov 19, 2009 12:17 am ]
Post subject: 
i am just thinking out loud and i am sorry if this dosent sound political correct (i do not intend to hurt your feeling): if you joke around a lot, and you also joke about you disability... then wouldnt this make it seem like its not such a big deal... i mean if you can joke about it instead of being very serious girls will tend to see it way more relaxed wont they? all you need then is smooth pick up skills...

i am sorry i dont know more.

all the best
Author:  BlueCassanova [ Thu Nov 19, 2009 12:56 am ]
Post subject:  Re: not sure where to post this
Quote:
so i'll admit that this is a bit balsy but here it goes...... i am a 23 y/o afc w/ an extra challenge, i was born with a dissablity. my situation is quite mild and i am completely cogently capable with an above average IQ. in fact, the only way anyone would know i have issues is that i walk funny, w/ slightly bent knees and a noticeable limp.
i am having trouble battling the stigma with my situation and women seem quite surprised when i ask them out. i make friends no problem but they seemed shocked if i want something more.

my question is three fold:
1. do you think that this situation makes my goal impossible/ do pua tactics not apply because i walk funny?
2. how can i help women see past my situation and take me seriously?
3. do any of you know someone who has also faced challanges and has been successful with females?

keep in mind that i AM A NORMAL PERSON and am not looking for pity, so be completly honest whatever your response
You're also at an advantage with some women as well, which I hope you don't fail to see. Remember the heart strings...

To answer you:
1) No. Why would it? PUAs that walk stiff look faggy and uptight. I personally dont fall for the Alpha pose (up straight, dont breathe, shoulder taught). Fucking boring. Relax a bit. Also, what about "OG Gangsters" that are so "cool" in societies eyes, they've gotten (or mimici'ing) shot and walk with the limp, as do pimps. I don't admire any of them, but it's a stigma as well, since you mention stimgas.

2) By gaming on their emotions. No one can really help you out but yourself on this. Think of past situations and conversations with friends and loved ones, what touched them when you'd bring it up, without DLV'ing yourself?

3) Me. I was a recluse for most of age 17-24, severe social anxiety (agoraphobia), took enough pills to kill a heard of horses, lived in zombie mode. I still have panic attacks, but I've shed them. Being human and showing vulnerability shows that you can be trusted by women, it also shows you aren't hiding things and are trustworthy. As a woman, would you rather have a guy who's so slick he's like a cartoon, or a guy who's charming but fumbles sometimes grabbing something or forgets what he's saying cuz he's nervous?

All the best buddy,
Blue
Author:  ATM16 [ Thu Nov 19, 2009 12:58 am ]
Post subject: 
Yeah I think that making light banter about your disability makes it less of a thing for a girl than if you were to pretend it didn't exist as she'll probably be thinking all the time "I've got to watch what I say. What if I offend him" etc by joking about it yourself. Approach a girl and open then try incorporate it yourself quickly so that

1. they're made aware of your disability from the beginning
2. they know your completely comfortable about talking about it and so confident and self assured that it doesn't bother you when you or other people talk about it.

If you see a girl staring just smile and open with "No I'm not drunk this is how I walk. Hi I'm....." (make it better than this and something your comfortable with).

They'll be better people on here than myself to give you advice on this. Hope this does in the mean time though
Author:  BlueCassanova [ Thu Nov 19, 2009 1:19 am ]
Post subject: 
Quote:
Yeah I think that making light banter about your disability makes it less of a thing for a girl than if you were to pretend it didn't exist as she'll probably be thinking all the time "I've got to watch what I say. What if I offend him" etc by joking about it yourself. Approach a girl and open then try incorporate it yourself quickly so that

1. they're made aware of your disability from the beginning
2. they know your completely comfortable about talking about it and so confident and self assured that it doesn't bother you when you or other people talk about it.

If you see a girl staring just smile and open with "No I'm not drunk this is how I walk. Hi I'm....." (make it better than this and something your comfortable with).

They'll be better people on here than myself to give you advice on this. Hope this does in the mean time though
I agree with SPAM also. You possibly also have created an anchor, from emotions, and if you escalate to C1, you have created an anchor if they ever see someone walk similar to you, when you're not around. Some women are coarse bitches, just like some men are unapologetic assholes (ego-centric, not PUAs), so don't be fazed by those.

I'd suggest instead of the "No I'm not drunk this is how I walk. Hi I'm..." to maybe make humorous. It might be a DLV, but it can also be a DHV in disguise with most women: "No, haha, I'm not drunk, this is just how I walk, when I'm drunk I walk straight. *wink* Hi, I'm..."
Author:  Mister Boss [ Thu Nov 19, 2009 10:26 am ]
Post subject:  Re: not sure where to post this
Quote:
so i'll admit that this is a bit balsy but here it goes...... i am a 23 y/o afc w/ an extra challenge, i was born with a dissablity. my situation is quite mild and i am completely cogently capable with an above average IQ. in fact, the only way anyone would know i have issues is that i walk funny, w/ slightly bent knees and a noticeable limp.
i am having trouble battling the stigma with my situation and women seem quite surprised when i ask them out. i make friends no problem but they seemed shocked if i want something more.

my question is three fold:
1. do you think that this situation makes my goal impossible/ do pua tactics not apply because i walk funny?
2. how can i help women see past my situation and take me seriously?
3. do any of you know someone who has also faced challanges and has been successful with females?

keep in mind that i AM A NORMAL PERSON and am not looking for pity, so be completly honest whatever your response
Always make the best out of what you have. You can't change your "disability", so use it to your advantage. I would personally buy some sort of walking staff / pimp cane and walk around with swagger :wink: . It makes you stand out from the crowd in an original way. When girls ask you why you walk around with a shiny staff, you can joke around a little. Like others said. Talk lighthearted about your disability.

So to answer your questions:

1. Anything is possible with the right attitude. You decide for yourself.
2. Being open and talk about it
3. Yes. A guy I knew from high school has some sort of shortened limb arm. He didn't care about it, and he didn't hide it from others! And yeah, he has his fair share of women. He projected some sort of alpha male attitude. Like a war veteran leader who got his handicap from a battle or something. He was popular in high school.
Author:  madals [ Thu Nov 19, 2009 12:36 pm ]
Post subject: 
Read this post I did ages ago: sarging-without-stairs-vt31690
Page 1 of 1 All times are UTC
Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group
http://www.phpbb.com/