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Author:  7dbeckham23 [ Sun Oct 25, 2009 6:57 pm ]
Post subject:  Problem!!!! Help
Okay here are the problem guys, I really like this girl that goes to my college and she’s only in one of my class’s. I’ve met for a month now and I really like her and I want this to be a lasting relationship, not a fuck and throw thing. I have msn convo’s when she’s online we talk for 3-5 hours about anything, she replies uber fast. I also got her cell number and we text, but she rarely initiates them. She smiles and says hi in the halls every time even when she’s talking with her friends. We sit next to each other in class and we make a lot of eye contact. Like I asked once on msn about her clubbing and shit and she said she dosent want to tell me cause its going to ruin the innocent image I have of her…. Like I think she likes me but I always feel so lost with her.

Well this week I asked if she wanted to spend time with me on my hour and a half break, I said “A) accept B) decline”…. She said “ummm haha, I’m going to go with A :P” We just talked and walked around the college so it wasn’t that interesting to be honest. I asked if she wanted to go out this weekend and she agreed, but 5 min later she said she forgot she had to go to the movies with her friends anyways this weekend and asked if I would mind, I said no and she brought along one girl friend with her. She’s pretty shy because she told me that a few times herself so it might be just that she’s scared of having an awkward first date…

At the moment I feel very lost, I don’t know if she has at all any interest in me. I don’t know how to ask her out on a second date and is there any tests to see if she likes me at all?? I’m a very shy guy myself which is one of my biggest problems and I also don’t know how to make her attracted to me……this has been bothering for a month now and I really want to know how she feels for me.
I’m shy and I don’t know where I am going to get with her. I have no clue about what I mean to her and this is really affecting me.
Author:  GetmetheGirl [ Sun Oct 25, 2009 10:45 pm ]
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Hey mate,

I want to help!

It looks like to me that she is already attracted to you. She has to be to chill with you so much. Just make sure you dont fall into the friends zone. The fact she brought a friend i a slight worrying sign of that, but dont get hooked up on that just yet, because it is more than likely just because she is shy.

Your in school after all. All girls like to bring their friend on dates where they dont fully trust the guy yet. What you should have done is invite a friend of yours. The worst thing that could happen is you have a third wheel (which is exactly what happened with her friend being there). Nothing is going to escalate when you have an odd one out there.

I would suggest you move as much of the msn chat/texting to real phone conversations. It takes more 'investment' (if thats the right word) to have a phone conversation than it does to chat by msn. Plus there is more of an emotional connection.

Try next time saying you really want to go to (somewhere cool) so you and a few friends are going on the weekend, she should so come and bring a few friends of hers too. When everyone turns up, its your job to be the alpha male in the group and get the groups to mingle. Assist your friends in getting to know her friends; this will make you look super cool in front of her.

Then isolate her when you get the chance and up the kino escalation. Hold her hand/lower back/stroker her neck. I know this is easier said than done but you will just have to bite the bullet and up the tempo.

I want to give more advice but i need to know what specifically you want help with. Does the above give you more of a clear idea? Let me know!
Author:  GetmetheGirl [ Sun Oct 25, 2009 10:45 pm ]
Post subject: 
Hey mate,

I want to help!

It looks like to me that she is already attracted to you. She has to be to chill with you so much. Just make sure you dont fall into the friends zone. The fact she brought a friend i a slight worrying sign of that, but dont get hooked up on that just yet, because it is more than likely just because she is shy.

Your in school after all. All girls like to bring their friend on dates where they dont fully trust the guy yet. What you should have done is invite a friend of yours. The worst thing that could happen is you have a third wheel (which is exactly what happened with her friend being there). Nothing is going to escalate when you have an odd one out there.

I would suggest you move as much of the msn chat/texting to real phone conversations. It takes more 'investment' (if thats the right word) to have a phone conversation than it does to chat by msn. Plus there is more of an emotional connection.

Try next time saying you really want to go to (somewhere cool) so you and a few friends are going on the weekend, she should so come and bring a few friends of hers too. When everyone turns up, its your job to be the alpha male in the group and get the groups to mingle. Assist your friends in getting to know her friends; this will make you look super cool in front of her.

Then isolate her when you get the chance and up the kino escalation. Hold her hand/lower back/stroker her neck. I know this is easier said than done but you will just have to bite the bullet and up the tempo.

I want to give more advice but i need to know what specifically you want help with. Does the above give you more of a clear idea? Let me know!
Author:  GetmetheGirl [ Sun Oct 25, 2009 10:46 pm ]
Post subject: 
Hey mate,

I want to help!

It looks like to me that she is already attracted to you. She has to be to chill with you so much. Just make sure you dont fall into the friends zone. The fact she brought a friend i a slight worrying sign of that, but dont get hooked up on that just yet, because it is more than likely just because she is shy.

Your in school after all. All girls like to bring their friend on dates where they dont fully trust the guy yet. What you should have done is invite a friend of yours. The worst thing that could happen is you have a third wheel (which is exactly what happened with her friend being there). Nothing is going to escalate when you have an odd one out there.

I would suggest you move as much of the msn chat/texting to real phone conversations. It takes more 'investment' (if thats the right word) to have a phone conversation than it does to chat by msn. Plus there is more of an emotional connection.

Try next time saying you really want to go to (somewhere cool) so you and a few friends are going on the weekend, she should so come and bring a few friends of hers too. When everyone turns up, its your job to be the alpha male in the group and get the groups to mingle. Assist your friends in getting to know her friends; this will make you look super cool in front of her.

Then isolate her when you get the chance and up the kino escalation. Hold her hand/lower back/stroker her neck. I know this is easier said than done but you will just have to bite the bullet and up the tempo.

I want to give more advice but i need to know what specifically you want help with. Does the above give you more of a clear idea? Let me know!
Author:  7dbeckham23 [ Mon Oct 26, 2009 1:37 am ]
Post subject: 
Thx for your reply!! :D

Yeh I know definitely know that resorting to texting/msn isn't the best, but its mostly because i don't know what to talk with her on the phone about and that she might find me desperate/weird that im calling her. As i've stated i'm not that confident with myself.

I would think about texting her all day, but end up not doing it cuz im too scared that I'm interfering with too much of her life. Once in a while i'll have an excuse to text her but I don't text for no reason. She also almost never initiates text with me therefore it's really hard for me to know at all if she's interested yet. And she doesn't intentionally find ways to reach me during weekends. But she tries to get my attention in class and stuff, and when we get a conversation going it goes on for a long time. She does play with her hair around me and she laughs and makes eye contact with me... But it's just really confusing to me right now.. I just want to find out if she's interested like now... Im tired of this guessing game
Author:  7dbeckham23 [ Mon Oct 26, 2009 1:37 am ]
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Thx for your reply!! :D

Yeh I know definitely know that resorting to texting/msn isn't the best, but its mostly because i don't know what to talk with her on the phone about and that she might find me desperate/weird that im calling her. As i've stated i'm not that confident with myself.

I would think about texting her all day, but end up not doing it cuz im too scared that I'm interfering with too much of her life. Once in a while i'll have an excuse to text her but I don't text for no reason. She also almost never initiates text with me therefore it's really hard for me to know at all if she's interested yet. And she doesn't intentionally find ways to reach me during weekends. But she tries to get my attention in class and stuff, and when we get a conversation going it goes on for a long time. She does play with her hair around me and she laughs and makes eye contact with me... But it's just really confusing to me right now.. I just want to find out if she's interested like now... Im tired of this guessing game
Author:  GetmetheGirl [ Mon Oct 26, 2009 7:17 am ]
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well in that case you must assume attraction. its very difficult to know whether a girl is genuinly interested or not, so rather than wasting time waiting for her to make the first move (which she wont) your gonna have to start acting like your interested.

Call her just to speak to her. You say you dont call but you dont know what to say, but you have 3 hours conversations on msn, i bet you dont plan out the whole three hour conversation with her then! And i bet you dont plan the conversation in class!

I suggest you do as i say above and get her out on some kind of second date. Its all ready for you, you just need to take it to the next level
Author:  GetmetheGirl [ Mon Oct 26, 2009 7:24 am ]
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well in that case you must assume attraction. its very difficult to know whether a girl is genuinly interested or not, so rather than wasting time waiting for her to make the first move (which she wont) your gonna have to start acting like your interested.

Call her just to speak to her. You say you dont call but you dont know what to say, but you have 3 hours conversations on msn, i bet you dont plan out the whole three hour conversation with her then! And i bet you dont plan the conversation in class!

I suggest you do as i say above and get her out on some kind of second date. Its all ready for you, you just need to take it to the next level
Author:  7dbeckham23 [ Tue Oct 27, 2009 11:10 pm ]
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Well for the past few days we talked a lot less over msn, texting and in person. So i think i might play it chill for the next week and ask her if she's interested. If not watev's .. if she is then cool.. Cuz i don't wanna tire myself from all this waiting anymore and it's starting to affect other aspects of my life
Author:  7dbeckham23 [ Tue Oct 27, 2009 11:10 pm ]
Post subject: 
Well for the past few days we talked a lot less over msn, texting and in person. So i think i might play it chill for the next week and ask her if she's interested. If not watev's .. if she is then cool.. Cuz i don't wanna tire myself from all this waiting anymore and it's starting to affect other aspects of my life
Author:  GetmetheGirl [ Wed Oct 28, 2009 8:29 am ]
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Get on the phone to her! Honestly, thats the best way. Dont let it die off just because you didnt ever find out how she felt.

If its affecting other aspects of your life, then your worrying about it WAAAAY too much. Pick up should be fun. It should be a important part of your life, but that can be put to one side when more important things come up.

You MUST take it up a level asap. If your in the UK, give me a call for a quick consultation; i help you out more. If your not, im always on SPAM!

SPAM username: GetmetheGirl
UK Landline: 0117 33 57 999
Author:  ruledsubject [ Wed Oct 28, 2009 9:48 am ]
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hahaha whats with the copy paste shit... good advie tho bro
Author:  7dbeckham23 [ Thu Oct 29, 2009 12:35 am ]
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Thanks soo much for your advice :D

It's true i started off with a lot of confidence and stuff, but in the past week or so i felt like things started dying down and i felt like shit about myself.. I felt like she was too good for me. I was thinking WAYYY too much =P

Anywho these past few days I've been chilling with my friends whom mostly are Jocks and their talking me through this and I feel soo much better about myself now... I think next week I'll be back to my own self hahahhaha... But like I dunno how to approach this situation from next week on cuz I've been kinda ignoring her for the past week. How should i start picking up the convo's again and make her attracted to me? I don't want to come off desperate again, thats the last thing i want!!! =P
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