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ok this is a beta trait im trying 2 fight when girls get attitudes and snap on you in public loud! sometimes i get nervous and sometimes i snap back and they apologise and or try 2 play it off by making a joke about of it how do i handle these situations properly whats my motivation?
If you go in hoping for something, then that can be taken from you when it isn't delivered (your example above). I remember Mystery saying to go in like it's a game, you might indeed fail, but play it anyway. If not, keep playing, just keep in mind that at any time, you might have to 'restart the game'. on another setOne of the most important things I've learned is how to remain calm and collected. Everyone gets a potential C&B, but keeping your confident frame alleviates this.
Jumping out of the theory shit for a minute, my answer is to expect this and be prepared. While they slam you, neg them: "Do you always spit when you talk" or "I can smell the alcohol on your breath from here, how much did you drink *smile*", say it loud, dont lean in. When they first respond to you like that, you want to use body language that shows you backing off, cowering, and then within a second regaining composure (due to you believing that you've been embarrassed publicly). Keep the thought that they just made fools of themselves and embarrass them back.
I had something similar happen at a club last weekend. I got neg'd by a 9 while talking to her friend, an 8. She got louder and louder trying to get attention. I just neg'd her back that "ahh" she felt jealous and didn't get the attention she felt she deserved, but maybe some 'nice' guy would come by later and save her from her misery. Then she shot out IOIs, playfully.
Think of those video games where you just finished shooting down some bad monster and before you even get to reload, another one is running from the corner at you. It happens, and if it didn't, it wouldn't be a challenge (or a victory once you roll off of her in a hotel room)
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