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Author:  Conker [ Tue Oct 06, 2009 9:58 am ]
Post subject:  Date one girl without offending the others?
This is a first for me.

I've always had girls in my life, and many times I've experienced being able to tell when a girl is keen on dating me, and taking it further.

But now I have about 3 girls interested in having me as a boyfriend. They are all awesome and each in their own way. Ideally I would want to know what it's like to be with each one.

However, I know I need to pick just one and officially make her "my girlfriend" to everyone, because I know from past experience these are not the kind of girls who will be happy with being "just another girl", they want a boyfriend, and it's about time I tried on the boyfriend thing and gave a girl the respect she deserves.

But if and when things don't work out with one, how can I make sure that the others will still be an option later on down the track (assuming they are still single of course)?

I feel like as soon as I choose one, the others hearts will be crushed and they could never bring themselves to be interested in me again.
Author:  Coolkid [ Tue Oct 06, 2009 10:51 pm ]
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are you willing to cheat on the girlfriend u "choose"?
Author:  Rome-EO [ Wed Oct 07, 2009 4:36 am ]
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why do you need a girlfriend... sounds to me like your really not ready for a girlfriend you have got 3 girls on the line which im not against or anything... but coming from personal experiance with just 2 girls on the line i ended up choosing one 2 months down the road wanting to know what it would have been like with the other one and just reasontly ended things with the girl i chose and honestly through out the entire relationship i kept running into other girls that i would end up gaming just out of habbit and it would piss my girlfriend off to know end...

if that makes any sense to you seriously dont date them its probably better to just end things with all 3 chicks and keep gaming and find new ones untill you seriously settle down and can set aside the gaming multiple girls and just find one girl..
Author:  Conker [ Thu Oct 08, 2009 3:43 am ]
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Well that's what I've been doing, and when I look back, all the girls I've been with were my "girlfriend" at the time, for all intents and purposes - cause I was with them for more than a month, we did all sorts of things together, really got into each other, I just never admitted it publicly, which was wrong, because they were all really good girls that were very devoted to me.

In fact it even goes way back before my interest in PUA, to my first gf, whom I saw for 6 months before she cried and said it's about time she deserved something more, and I replied that I would be stupid for passing up a great girl like her and officially declared her my girlfriend, and we dated for 2 years after that.

It's been many years since and I've never taken the manlyness and confidence I've learned from PUA into a relationship to make it a really good relationship (that first one I was still a wussbag for the most part), so I think it might be time I did it and got that life experience.

So I will definitely break the other girls hearts if I do this? There's no way to make sure they stay in the picture as friends?
Author:  Rome-EO [ Thu Oct 08, 2009 4:38 am ]
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umm well i think your only possible save for the other girls is to slowly ween them off you.. or tell them your not ready for a relationship give it a month to two months and start dating the girl you choose. that would probably be the rout i would go... i mean if they ever question it you can always say its funny how life works out one second your not ready and the next things just happen so fast and presto
Author:  Little Panda [ Thu Oct 08, 2009 11:01 am ]
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are you willing to cheat on the girlfriend u "choose"?
Dude, don't even go there.
Author:  Conker [ Thu Oct 08, 2009 12:14 pm ]
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umm well i think your only possible save for the other girls is to slowly ween them off you.. or tell them your not ready for a relationship give it a month to two months and start dating the girl you choose. that would probably be the rout i would go... i mean if they ever question it you can always say its funny how life works out one second your not ready and the next things just happen so fast and presto
Has that worked for you in the past?

Sounds good, I just hope they don't think it was an excuse to blow them off.

Yes technically it is, but its not good for someone to know that. Well I wish everyone could see it this way. I know at least 3 girls that have pretty much admitted they would be dating me if they were single, and I know when they do become single they would follow through on that. And I'm happy to see it way. If I am single at the same time, I will happily follow through on that too. But I think most people would be so hurt at being turned down that they couldn't bring themselves to feel attraction for that person again, for fear of being turned down again.
Author:  Conker [ Fri Oct 09, 2009 4:56 pm ]
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Well it's coming to crunch time soon. The more I see of each of them, the harder it is to choose.

Whenever I finish seeing one of them, I find myself thinking that she is going to be the one. So at the moment it's just whoever I was last with.

But soon it will get to the point where they will expect something more than just eating out and seeing movies, and whichever one finds out I've been hanging out with the others, she will pull herself out of the picture and my decision will be made for me.
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