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Author:  Little Panda [ Mon Sep 14, 2009 6:20 pm ]
Post subject:  How to freeze out?
I've been asking myself this question a lot.

There's this girl in my school (one itis) that I want to freeze out. However, how do you freeze out?

Just by ignoring her texts and calls? Because if I do that, she will think I'm angry at her and that's not the point!

Just need to be a bit distant from her until I get my feelings together..

I would appreciate if somebody could give me a "step by step" process for freezing out.

Thank you,

Zen.
Author:  pillow_fight [ Tue Sep 15, 2009 6:49 am ]
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Don't type essays in your texts, keep them short and too the point like if you were in a hurry. On the phone don't lead the conversation, cut back on asking questions, and don't stay on too long, she'll realize the calls aren't as fun as before and might cut back herself. No need to be cold just distant and uninterested. Be aware however that while this will probably reduce comfort it may raise her attraction (kinda like push pull).
Author:  Little Panda [ Tue Sep 15, 2009 2:48 pm ]
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I have tried what you said. In school, there was a big change. She hugged me and kissed me more often than usual.

However, now I know how to freeze out with the texting and calling. But how do I freeze out in real life?

Like when we see each other in school. Should I ignore her and not talk to her or what?
Author:  slyder2412 [ Tue Sep 15, 2009 3:44 pm ]
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Freezing out in real life ...simply don't talk to them, ignore them, be nonchalant, evade eye contact(look around at what's more interesting if you MUST exchange words for some reason)...don't include her in the conversation. The way it feels for me....is my attention makes them feel stimulated, and no attention causes them to feel lost and the sole variable is you. This is why freeze outs almost always work, unless the girl has no interest in you, which is a win/win situation anyway.
Author:  Little Panda [ Tue Sep 15, 2009 5:20 pm ]
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Freezing out in real life ...simply don't talk to them, ignore them, be nonchalant, evade eye contact(look around at what's more interesting if you MUST exchange words for some reason)...don't include her in the conversation. The way it feels for me....is my attention makes them feel stimulated, and no attention causes them to feel lost and the sole variable is you. This is why freeze outs almost always work, unless the girl has no interest in you, which is a win/win situation anyway.
If I ignore her and avoid her all the time, she will suspect something is up. It won't be a freeze out anymore, it will be pure, cold HATE or something.

Is that really what I'm supposed to do? :S
Author:  Mister Boss [ Tue Sep 15, 2009 5:54 pm ]
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The point is to stop conveying interest in the girl. Ignoring her IRL is childish. Talk to her on a complete different level. Almost like you're strangers, just being polite. Don't make the conversation personal, nor sexual. Talk about subjects that "strangers" would talk about. Work, weather etc. Keep it short and simple.

EDIT: They immediately feel that any effort from your side is gone. This drives them crazy. Women are social beings. More social than us. Once again, doing the above is sufficient to let them know you're not that interested anymore. Ignoring her is simply weird and works against you.
Author:  Reo [ Tue Sep 15, 2009 10:57 pm ]
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I understand what you trying to do with the whole freeze out thing, but it's not going to work and its very pointless. For one thing the girl doesn't even know you like as more than just a friend. In the end all you will have done was put so much time and wasted energy constantly thinking how to avoid her and be rude and hoping she's suddenly going to be all over you wanting a relationship.
You're punishing her for nothing

Think about it what if some girl you had 0 interest in started trying to freeze you out? you could care less

If you had told this your interested and she rejected you. Then by all means ignore her and move on your energy will be best put towards finding other women who will return your same interest.
Author:  Little Panda [ Wed Sep 16, 2009 5:00 pm ]
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Reo, I understand what you are trying to tell me. However, she has always been "all over me", but only as a friend. I was hoping that if I freeze her out, she will eventually come to me or rather, MISS me.
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This is day 3 of the freeze out, and already I am getting more "hearts" in text messages and more physical contact with her. It seems like it's working, ain't it?
Should I just keep going like this forever? Not sure of how to proceed from here.
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EDIT: Here are the bad news. She has started paying a lot of attention to her other friend (guy friend). They started talking more frequently and seem to be really close. Is this gonna be a problem, or is she trying to make me jealous somehow?
Author:  Open [ Sat Sep 19, 2009 2:47 am ]
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I'm in almost the exact same situation as you. In fact, you're the one who inspired me to post my own topic to the same problem (I didn't want to be a thread high-jacker lol) I haven't gotten any pro advice yet, but my guess is that you freeze freeze freeze until she does what you want her to do (in my case, tear off my clothes and sex me :P) I feel like if I stop freezing any sooner, she'll be re attracted, but I still won't be satisfied. Or maybe if you stop freezing sooner, it'll be easier to progress, because she will be more willing to do what YOU want her to do since spending so much time apart. It could be one of these two. Im not a pro though. I'll have to re read the literature on freezing to be truly sure.
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