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| Author: | Coolkid [ Wed Aug 26, 2009 9:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | how to handle shy girls ???????????????????????????????????? |
hey guys, I have a problem gaming shy girls ... especially this one i already had 2 day dates.... i guess she is into me... but it is really hard for me to move things forward (ex... move things to kissing and kino) any suggestions guys? thx coolkid ps: she also tries to ignore funny and confident comments of mine like: "we should do judo once in a while.... that involves a lot of full body contact  " she just ignores those kind of comments... so flirting is very hard
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| Author: | Coolkid [ Sun Sep 06, 2009 5:16 pm ] |
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can somebody answer this??? |
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| Author: | Conker [ Mon Sep 07, 2009 2:59 pm ] |
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I have had a lot of experience with shy girls. The important thing to remember is that they have some issue affecting their social life. We all have issues we are working on, but there is this sliding scale of how badly it is actually affecting our life. It's up to you to weigh up how much of a problem her issue is for you, with all her good points. Often times it can be very much worth it  The biggest challenge you will have is copping her weird behavior right on the chin, being strong, not reacting emotionally to it, giving her time to become reasonable if need be, and then continue being positive with her. There may come times where you have to be firm, but be brief, and NEVER EVER get angry. The reason I say this is because shy girls can become really irrational and insulting while dealing with their issue, and at the same time, someone getting angry at them is the last thing they need. Also it can be hard to tell if you're angry. The best way to tell is how you feel inside. If you feel calm and indifferent about the outcome - you don't care what happens or what she thinks, or you're insulted or frustrated but willing to drop it and just do something else, you're fine. If you feel you really strongly need to make a point at all costs - you are angry, and you should just shut up and leave and calm down. If she is ignoring your flirts, then stop doing them - she's not comfortable with them. Comfort is a big thing for shy girls. Instead attract her in other ways. Through your interactions and conversations throughout the day, show her that you care about her and are capable of looking after her, remembering what she likes, what she doesn't like, etc. Soon you will find her adoring you and practically throwing herself at you. Watch out for the kind of girl who moves real fast with the comfort stuff. Confiding her deepest problems with you if you feel it's too soon for that sort of thing, getting you gifts, opening up to you in a way that seems way too quick for her shyness, eg. showing you nude pics of herself - because at the point where you reach the seduction stage where she finally realises she's attracted to you, she'll go cold. She'll cancel on you and stop talking to you. She gets scared. That's where you have to take it easy and give her some space, but keep building comfort, and keep giving her the opportunity to get out with you, once in a while (but not as often as before). Anyway with you sounds like she is already scared and you have to work on comfort. What are your other interactions like? |
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| Author: | PrettyBoy41 [ Fri Sep 11, 2009 7:57 am ] |
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try causally holding her hand, see how she reacts to that. does she squeez back or shake it off? some girls respond to tickling, it usually brings a smile out, its fun and its kino. what im getting at is using kino as a form of communication. obviously shes not huge on being direct or talking about feelings or even flirting. but kino will essentially show you what she's not telling you. if she likes it, thats a good sign. if it makes her uncomfortable AND shes not flirting, maybe it's time to reach for that old fishing pole again. but take it slow and see what happens. you may be surprised. PB41 |
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