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| Author: | Johnny Cassell [ Mon Jun 08, 2009 10:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How to tell your girl your part of the community ? |
Post your ways of telling a girl that you are a PUA...how do you explain to her without it sounding like shes a statistic.. She finds some PUA books /material in your house and questions you on it... Do we just openly tell the chick what it is... How to tell the girl you like you were into the community... "We Either Make Ourselves Miserable Or We Make Ourselves Strong . The Amount of Work Is The Same" |
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| Author: | Energy_ [ Mon Jun 08, 2009 11:01 pm ] |
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A couple of weeks ago I was talking to a girl ( I wrote a post on it) that told me her ex boyfriend was reading the game and so on. She didn't belive in it and thought no girl would ever go for it. She belived it was all about telling certain stories, playing a bit hard to get etc. When I first started telling her what I knew about "the game" she first seemed turned off. So I told her the following: "I bet you're afraid guys in general would figure out the tricks you and other girls very thoughtfully play out everytime you go out. But thats not what its about. Have you ever heard the of the concept called "Social Dynamics"?" She hadn't. And I went on telling her that "the real game" isn't about saying cheezie pickuplines or just getting laid - its about the abillity to create intersting moments between yourself and people you meet, in order to see what the're all about. I told her this in a very serious way, and went on with saying: By having the tools to display your personality and know what signs to look for in the person your interacting with you'll find out if you infact like the one your talking with, if you have anything in common, values, friends etc. I was never drawn to reading about "the game" just to get laid. I've never had a problem meeting girls, but Im not just looking for a girl. Im looking for the girl. And the beauty of it, the real secret is that with some really good social skills you get insight to make the choice - in finding a girl. I dont fool around even half as much as I did before, cause now a lot of girls seem blank and boring - cause I have the tools to find out what there about. Another thing I found to - is that girls find me more attractive cause Im a guy who doesn't settle for anybody. The girl has to meet certain standards. Then I made it a little bit more C&F and told her what her ex might have wanned to try, Styles 5-lies-questions. Did it and I won a date with her and her opinion was totally changed. We'll see what happens. |
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| Author: | Antithesis [ Tue Jun 09, 2009 12:11 am ] |
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Why would you even tell them you're a PUA? How would her knowing this information benefit your relationship in any way? Unless she asks specifically, it's not information I would willingly disclose. ~Antithesis |
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| Author: | Energy_ [ Tue Jun 09, 2009 10:50 am ] |
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Of course I didn't use the words: "Im a PUA". Its more in the way of comparing it with the classic things like Be yourself = Present yourself in an intresting way Play hard to get = Dont give it all way, keep her intrested Since this girl was one her toes and the set was about to crash I decided to put some cards on table and she respected me for the knowledge I possesed. Then I said I didnt have time to date her for a while, on FB and she replied teasing with: "Do you really think its that easy to get a numberclose?" Ive met a couple of times after this and she is definetly attracted to me. But we'll se what happens. Maybe Im wrong. Dont you ever try things you haven't really thought threw just to see where you end up improvising the material you have? I think there is way of getting laid with a nun, telling her your a pornstar, done propably! |
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| Author: | Johnny Cassell [ Tue Jun 09, 2009 2:59 pm ] |
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Energy , that's a nice explanation you gave that chick there and it is clear she does respect your knowledge. The art seems to be putting it out to them making them understand that is not about ticking boxes but ..to actually have that choice of attractive girls that could potentially be the one with the qualities you want in a partner ...that 100% love we all talk about . Quite frankly it scares me to look at my friends and just know they're settling for something less than 100% My situation Is I have a chick I'm seeing and she saw gamblers book in my room . She picked it up sat on my stomach and began quoting bits out to me. She said it was so me and that's what I'm like . ..funny thing is gamblers book I ain't actually got round to Reading yet lol. But my point is what would you do..tell the chick you've used this on girls before her..or just tell her the 100% love story. She also said I should get rid of my books ! Pffttt |
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| Author: | Energy_ [ Wed Jun 10, 2009 12:01 am ] |
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It seems like you have a pretty serious situation with someone you like very much. I really hope everything works out for you and maybe someone of the things above can help! |
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| Author: | Chester167 [ Wed Jun 10, 2009 1:07 am ] |
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i agree with a few things.. first off. i wouldnt ever say "im a pua" and i dont even consider myself one actually. i feel kinda weird saying it even... ive been called a player in a million ways but i get player and man-whore specifically a lot.... last night for the most recent..IN BED... hand on c*ck... and i get brakes and "ur so calm and ur a tease.. ur just a player" ...dont u love lmr? i DONT.. i get really annoyed with it. i try and take shortcuts.. cuz i get pissed that i have to reverse psych them into doing something they clearly want... then thank god they did afterwards ..... i usually handle it by saying very seriously (and honestly) im not playing anyone.. ive just become more honest and open. if i wanted u as a f*ck buddy or just to play i woulda made that clear from the start... so u wanna keep talking or kissing? she said "so u dont just wanna fuk?...well thats all i want tho.." i said "cool. then u shoulda given ur number to any of the 4 other guys at least that i personalyl saw come up to you.. im sure theyd be happy just fukn.." and i handed her her shirt... she said "oooooooh.." and mounted me again on the same token.. ive had girls mention shit like what was up top and i gave that example above cuz it happened yesterday and its on the same theme.. HONESTY.. the only book ive read on this stuff is Strauss' and thats more entertaining then helpful ... i read bits of david d's ebook awhile ago.... i dont read too much into it cuz i know the dynamic.. and thats how i tell girls about it... i usually just give an example and say something like "if a guy came up to you and said "hey ur hot can i buy u a drink" .. u might say ya.. and then bounce..... but if i came up to u and said 'hey ur hair is nice.. kinda looks like a bees nest.. im allergic... so when we dance.. no sudden movements ok... can u do the robot?" "see.. ur laughing already..... lil more exciting... i didnt read that in a book... its just something id say.... its something a lot of guys could say.. but they think u'll slap them. so they try and be nice... " the "game" as it pertains to "learning" for some newbs.. is like learning piano.. some ppl can just play stuff by ear.. MOST tho.. have to learn to play other peoples songs before they can sub in their own....then u can see what they actually have... so really u should grateful... it makes it easier for u to meet decent guys... since some are actually approaching u now.. rather then the jack asses that just wanna fuk.... " they will agree usually.. and say that makes sense.... if not yet i pull canned material on purpose.. like the cube game(which is sick no matter wat) or superhero talk. which i also think is good to jsut talk about . its fun.... get them into it.. dont tell them ur using anythign. pretend u changed the subject.. once they are all like "im soo not like shadow cat....!! " say... "so what did u take in school? .....oh.. cool........ have any brothers?.......cool..... u like pets?........cool...where u from?.......gay..." feel the excitement die.. then tell her these are all things ur interested in knowing. but see how boring it is to start talking about that when ur out.....tell her those canned topics ARE used and known. but still fun cuz the responses are fresh.... kindly remind her that "where u from"-talk is also EXTREMELY canned material......... ppl seem to forget that... unless specifically asked or its gonna help you game....... dont say shit about "the game" even if u believe in it ... it still subconsciously makes u look weaker to guys and to her..... it can HELP you.. by explaining it but not referencing anything about canned shit.... cuz u say all that up there without mentioning u read it on a forum... and u seperate yourself as being more interesting then most.. this works well... im watching hockey so sorry if my post was all over the place... wasnt paying much attention. |
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