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| Author: | Anytime [ Fri May 08, 2009 2:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | Letting go... |
Hey Guys... As I write this, I'm pretty messed. My situation goes like this; I have a girl which I've been fucking for a little while now. Just casual sex no relationship feelings whatsoever. I find myself disliking her more and more everytime I am out somewhere and she is there too. I just don't want to even know her...I feel like I despise her. I have slept with other girls while keeping this girl on the side. I don't feel the slightest bit or guilt for it. For some reason I always seem to judge her, I notice I'm very critical of what she does...like, to give you an example; My 28 year old friend wants to bang her (she's 18`) and he's now recently addd her as a friend on Facebook...and I'm pissed off about that?...Why do I even care? I hate her right?... Things she does and says hit me hard...and I'm trying to fight it, I really am. What is going on with me here? I'm attached to her aren't I? -Any |
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| Author: | Zikki [ Fri May 08, 2009 11:47 am ] |
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This is what happens when u have sex with sum1 and u only have a physical interest in them. Theoretically ur in love with her body, but her mind makes her incomplete, the trouble is that u keep coming back, so as u become more in tune physically, residual amounts of feeling trickle back and forwards, its natural to develop bonds to people, especially if u sexually active with them. Your probably not in love with her, but u feel a sense of possesiveness over her, because in ur mind, u cud have her, she cud be urs, but u dont want her. Trouble being when sum1 else shows interest its like sum1 trying to steal from u. Altho theres no admission of love, uve been telling ur body that this is ur partner everytime u get into bed with her, then when u pick up on her body language waining and being directed at sum1 else, u start to feel threatened and like u have lost ur hold. Thats why u get jealous over ex's hookin up with new people, usually not out of feeling coz I dumped my ex coz I hated her, but because of that familiarity u have built up. |
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| Author: | Anytime [ Fri May 08, 2009 12:25 pm ] |
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That makes perfect sence. Really helps. Thank's alot Zikki! Now...what would you say is the best course of action? Stop seeing her altogether? That will be hard because she is friends with a few of my friends that I go out with alot. I would love to tell her exactly how I feel... |
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| Author: | Zikki [ Fri May 08, 2009 3:16 pm ] |
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Well I dont think u know how u feel, I would be honest with her, actually explain that altho u bare no emotional feelings for her u r starting to find urself getting jealous etc. Ive always found it easier with FB's and random lays if im honest and open. If I keep my cards to myself, she keeps guessing and then u build emotion. It needs to be pure sex if ur not gunna offer an emotional commitment, that means that u have to deal with those jealous feelings, that or u come to ur senses and realise maybe this girls special. Follow ur heart but use ur mind! |
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