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Author:  Mind Hacker [ Mon Apr 13, 2009 2:11 pm ]
Post subject:  K-closed. Now girl disappears. Need advice ASAP.
Ok. This situation is very weird.

I met this girl at a birthday party of a friend, #-closed and then we started talking by phone and MSN, always gaming her. Then I tried to set up a meeting, she flakes saying she's sick and I go like "ok".
Then 1 week passes and I don't ask her out thinking about letting the time pass till Monday, but surprisely she asks me out for saturday.

We had a very nice day 2 there. She gives me lots of IOIs, tell me that she loved me, pays my ticket for the movie, and later tells that day was awesome.

Next day, she opens a MSN convo and says "Yesterday I loved you. Today I hate you. :D" but that's because she had an exam at uni and didn't study.

Ok. Then the later days she starts getting cold, like enters MSN "away" and don't talk to me, doesn't anwer my texts on the phone.

So, what's up?

Do you guys have experience with this? What should I do?

Currently I'm freezing her out by not contacting her either. It's been a week and nothing. Should I keep going or call her again and see what's up?

At this point would it be ok to call her and say something like: "Long time no see. So, it was pretty fun that Saturday, let's do something again and get to know each other more. I'm free at [some day]."

What do you think?
Author:  fealinlucky [ Mon Apr 13, 2009 2:37 pm ]
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Hm hm hm...

well here are my thougths...

and really... more info is needed on your interactions with this chick before a good determination can be made...
it sounds like your in friend zone...and let me show you what I mean

first you numberclose at a party and start running game... good good

then she flakes, now it could have been for real... sick is sick.. but whatever.

so then she reaches out to you while your freezing her out for flaking (idk if I would have done this, since it could have been a legit reason, might have tried to "reschedual)

so day two.. you get IOI's, she pays for ticket and says day is awsome. (i really dont know how to take the fact that she said she loved you... so im ignoring that as girly talk)

next day
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"Yesterday I loved you. Today I hate you. "
wow that sounds like something I would use as a C/F push pull.... but whatever its hard when its over chat to know if she is serious.

honestly unless you can provide more... treat it like a LJBF... freeze her out AGAIN..

and this time if she contacts you or you do set up something to do.. kino like hell...
build that attraction because it appears you have all the comfort you need.

or maybe she just had PMS and was stressed... hard to say
Author:  Mind Hacker [ Mon Apr 13, 2009 3:12 pm ]
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Hm hm hm...

well here are my thougths...
Thank you very much for answering.
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and really... more info is needed on your interactions with this chick before a good determination can be made...
it sounds like your in friend zone...and let me show you what I mean

first you numberclose at a party and start running game... good good
Actually, I talked at the party, but didn't close there. I thought she was the girlfriend of my friend. But later I added her on orkut (similar to Facebook) and built some attraction and #-closed.
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then she flakes, now it could have been for real... sick is sick.. but whatever.
It was true. It was some allergic reaction on her arms. She showed it to me on day 2.
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so then she reaches out to you while your freezing her out for flaking (idk if I would have done this, since it could have been a legit reason, might have tried to "reschedual)
I didn't actually freezed out. I just didn't bother. I was like "ok". And then she herself decided tor reschedule.
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so day two.. you get IOI's, she pays for ticket and says day is awsome. (i really dont know how to take the fact that she said she loved you... so im ignoring that as girly talk)
Pretty much all signs that I was in. I never had a girl love me that much. We even took photos together.
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next day
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"Yesterday I loved you. Today I hate you. "
wow that sounds like something I would use as a C/F push pull.... but whatever its hard when its over chat to know if she is serious.
Although it was at MSN I can tell it was not a serious tone.
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honestly unless you can provide more... treat it like a LJBF... freeze her out AGAIN..
Ok. I'm providing more info. Also, you can ask any detail if you want.
That's what I'm doing. I haven't contacted her since wednesday to see if she initiates it.
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and this time if she contacts you or you do set up something to do.. kino like hell...
build that attraction because it appears you have all the comfort you need.
If think it's the other way. I had lots of attraction but very few comfort. I was all mysterious, while she was asking stuff about me all the time, but I didn't gave it to her. I think that was my mistake.
Should I just call and say "Let's get to know each other. This time no mysterious stuff, I promise. But there's this cool stuff I want to show you, but I can't tell unless you come here right now."? :lol:
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or maybe she just had PMS and was stressed... hard to say
Yeah... she could also be busy or something.
Author:  Maf-PbC [ Wed Apr 15, 2009 3:00 pm ]
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What did you all do at the movie and what not? You make any moves? Kiss? She do anything to you? Let me bring this upon you from her side, if im understanding this all correctly...

She extended herself to you: Sounds like no moves were made by you.

She showed you that she was willing to spend time with you which she didn't have to do: Why would she waste her time with you if your not paying her way in(i.e shes having a free lunch or free night out on the town)

I don't understand why guys do not get this, if she opens up for you to make a move and YOU DO NOTHING, what do you think is running through her head at the moment? Is this guy gay? Is something wrong with him? Is something wrong with me? Is he not interested?

Let me know further details.
Author:  Mind Hacker [ Thu Apr 16, 2009 2:34 am ]
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She was giving all the IOIs, but yes, I was doing moves.

Like I walked with her on the mall, the I grabbed her hand and we sit somewhere, I start kinoing a lot and then I go for the kiss. We make out, and take photos of ourselfs and laugh a lot having fun with the pictures.

Then later while watching the movie we made out a lot.

I escalated everything.

No problems with the date really. It all comes the further days that she becomes weird.
Author:  CaptRow [ Thu Apr 16, 2009 3:10 am ]
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dude, ur overanalyzing this. ur not freezing her out, ur just buying urself time before you figure out what to do. obviously she's into you. call her up or something and talk to her about something totally unrelated!!

ask her if she could name all the oceans or something!! anything at all. dont bring up going out. then.....


if you want to freeze her out...then this would be the time. however i would....

chat her up later and go on another date. this time tho, action date man. no more movies. go play pool, putt putt golf, laser tag even!!! good luck mate!
Author:  Maf-PbC [ Thu Apr 16, 2009 4:24 pm ]
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^^^^^ def

Some chicks def pickup the vibe when its one of those "Hey is this all there is between us". They getup in their mind and start trying to slap logic and other understandings to their actions...almost like a little kid that gets bored and gets into mischief.

Usually after a good date or a session like you had, id leave her be and let her come back to me...that way your not implying or forcing yourself upon her to keep up the connection between you both.
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