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Author:  Tempest [ Mon Apr 06, 2009 1:46 am ]
Post subject:  one-itis please help!!!!!
K, quick background. I used to be a pretty good pua (b4 I knew what a pua was) and I met a high quality female, married her, we were together a total of 11 yrs (dating and married). Now we're divorced and I'm back in the field. Trying to remember my old game and learn new stuff from the community. Anyways...
I met a girl about 2 weeks ago. I f-closed her (although I should of done a roll off) and totally rocked her world in bed (not to honk my own horn but "beep beep") She was saying stuff like: I feel like I've always known u. and, I've never had someone make me cum like that b4. etc. Honestly, those words came out of her mouth.
So, I thought I had it in the bag. And quite frankly, if what happened next hadn't happened I think I would of had her rapped around my finger.
Suddenly, I realize that I can't stop thinking about her. And my emotions keep escalating. I end up texting her to death, projecting way to much interest, failing shit test etc. The usual one-itis bullshit.
Whats funny is is that logically I don't even like her that much.
So we don't talk 4 about 2 weeks. Then last night I'm at a bar and I run into her with 2 guys. It's pretty clear she's into one of them. I go to leave and have to walk by her to do so. I say "Hey" and giver her a hug. She throws me a bone, more to protect her situation than anything. She tells me to call her in the morning and we'll do breakfast.
And, like a total bonehead, I jump through her hoop and text her in the morning (although I tell her I can't make it and that I'd have to take a raincheck.). She doesn't even text me back.
Now, I know it's done, fellas. My problem is my emotions now. I still keep thinking about her and my emotions are all over the place. How do I get rid of these fucking feelings, and how can I avoid getting them again???
Thanks,
Tempest
Author:  Blacksheep [ Mon Apr 06, 2009 3:52 am ]
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Hey man happens to everyone, best way is go out and get back at it. The next time u f-close or hook up with another girl she'll b out of your head. Its probably more because shes the first one after getting back at it.
Author:  Tempest [ Mon Apr 06, 2009 5:33 am ]
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thx bro! and I totally have to agree. I have a former lover who wants to get together and get busy (wink wink) with me on one end and her bf (who apparently is cool with this) on the other. As soon as we started talking about this, it was like "L. who?" (L. is how I refer to this girl, I can't remember if I've already refered to her this way or not, in my post).
As a side note, I picked up L.'s best buddy and could have f-closed with her, but I didn't. I was drunk, and I was going to, but then I figured I was involving this girl in her friend's bullshit, and that she didn't deserve that. As the old pick up artist motto states: Leave them better than you found them. I try to follow this motto.
Right now, I'm pretty drunk. Decided to go out and blow off some steam. Hypnosis seems to help, and even Steve P. told me that it was a good avenue for healthy dispersal of these emotions. While I was there, I noticed a guy's gf repeatedly checking me out. So for right now I'm cool. However, I know that this is only the tip of the proverbial iceberg, and that I have a long road ahead of me. One-itis is the worse thing that can happen to you. And I'm starting to remember my old rule: "no woman is ever worth your dignity."
Hope this made sense, like I said, me = drunk right now.
thanx bros for any advice. Goddamn, I love this community :)
Tempest
Author:  Mr E [ Mon Apr 06, 2009 6:19 pm ]
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Hi,
you said that one itis is the worst thing that you can ever have and fck it hurts like hell. The other person literally takes over your mind. all you can think about is that person and you lose sleep and other fucked up shit. It is fucking horrible I admit and should be avoided. I guess that even the greats get it! But like you say, no woman is worth your dignity.
When I had one itis the woman knew I was going through a heavy time and just took advantage and seeing how weak I was, was coming on strong to withdraw and then do her, "I would never do anything like that acT" or "right now, I can't have a coffee" or whatever the fuck. She really screwed my head.
Anyway, now I am getting out and started learning and reading, I can distance myself. We used to have lunch in the same place/ we work at the same school. and I would be suffereing major anxiety feeling like the prick that everyone knew had been rejected/ I would go bright red and people would look at me with a funny expressoin on their faces like what the fuck is up with you.
Anwyay, now I am over it and am stronger for it. Currently I have just started in the PUA community and have had zero result but the simple act of going out on cold approaches inluences so many other areas of your life for the best. I feel stronger. I am not having much luck with the babes at all but I am sure as hell trying.
Move onto other babes dude and enjoy your life!!!!
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