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| Author: | Patrick_Bateman [ Thu Apr 02, 2009 2:12 am ] |
| Post subject: | girls i ACTUALLY like |
I have this huge problem of becoming a total tool with girls that I actually like. I'm sure many of you have had or still have the same problem. It seems like if I actually like a girl, I always seem to want to spend time together, and I mean.. isn't that a good thing when 2 people that like each other spend time together? Ultimately spending too much time together leads nowhere good. It seems like its impossible for me to get into this mindset of not giving a fuck when a girl likes me and I like her back. Once that happens it's game over for me and she has the upper hand.. Any tips to getting into that mindset? Also, I haven't been in many actual relationships (just flings), so how often should a couple spend time together to maintain this equilibrium of not ripping each others hair out from too much time together? |
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| Author: | Tallahassee [ Thu Apr 02, 2009 5:35 am ] |
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Wow this is a good question. I know just where you are coming from I remember back in the day I was a lot like you. for the first part about not being a tool, think about a relationship as a game of give and take, much like being in a club if the girl is good reward her if not punish her. Obviously this requires a bit of calibration that you have to do on your own which i can't really help with. as far as getting into the mindset of "not giving a fuck" I would suggest against that. it's all well and good for club game, but once in a relationship you have to care if you don't or you act like you don't she isn't going to stay interested very long. Finally for the last question, I would say spend as much time as you are comfortable with... by no means does it have to be a "date" date every time... sometimes taking a girl to just go and do chores can be a much better date than spending money on a fancy dinner. In fact I usually don't spend money on girls until at least a week or two into a relationship (no more than coffee anyway). However I do entertain them and allow them to become a bigger part in my life. they understand this and feel more comfortable around me which just makes them want to spend more time with me. these are just my opinions and it works for me. |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Thu Apr 02, 2009 10:43 am ] |
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I dont waste my time with girls I dont like. Why even bother, she has no effect on your S&R value. You need to reevaluate these girls, you like them, why would you not help them? But you need to remember that you are more important then them. In your life you have a responsibility to get your own stuff working before working on others... |
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| Author: | CaptRow [ Thu Apr 02, 2009 1:28 pm ] |
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you gotta ask urself the golden question: do i wanna have sex with her, or do i just wanna hold her hand? there is no right answer, you just gotta make sure you know which one you really want....or you'll be screwed. lol |
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| Author: | Ezo [ Thu Apr 02, 2009 3:52 pm ] |
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Getting screwed is often what it is all about. The question is just who is screwing who... |
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| Author: | Mind Hacker [ Fri Apr 10, 2009 3:52 pm ] |
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This is my sticking point too. And I've experienced it this week. The girl was waaaayyy into me, and then I started liking her too and them she disappears. But when I don't like the girl they keep chasing me. WTF!? This really need a solution. Any more tips are welcome! |
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| Author: | ~>Shady<~ [ Fri Apr 10, 2009 9:01 pm ] |
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Nice question. Well, i have like 10 girls i can mess around with but i have one main squeeze<~ she is taken so im on my sides but we still hang out at nights. But i have a tendacy too think of my main squeeze as my best friend and i make so much jokes with, and she knows my life as i know her's. But she holds my hand or lays on me, things like that. Sometimes it hightens but she is taken.. she is attracted too me i know.. If the girls you like don't work out go for other's Don't be a tool, you have the right too walk away. you have the right too call other girl's If they piss you off so much or use you too much in a certain area, pick up another girl when your with her <~ I did this once. FROM ONE GUY TOO ANOTHER! don't be a tool, see what is the difference bewteen how you act when you don't like them and when you do. and change yourself so you can get the good catch |
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