Hey dude
Hope you’re feeling good. This is pretty cool, well played on getting her to come to London for ya. I live in Cambridge. Ok, so in my opinion there are a few reasons she said what she said:
1. She genuinely feels a little bad that she’s going all the way to London to meet a stranger over the net rather than get an easy lay with this random dude.
2. She’s trying to DHV.
3. By DHV’ing, she’s shit testing you by watching for your response. (Is it worth the effort for her?)
I think it may be a combination of all 3. It’s kinda interesting that she wrote so much over text, and actually went out of her way to qualify herself so much to you. Your game must have been pretty tight so far, well played man
.Right, Dappah, so how are we going to respond? Well, take it as a kind of shit test. We can’t just jump into her hoop and play into her hands by thanking her and pussying up to her for coming when some other chode was pussying up to her. At the same time, you don’t just want to totally throw away her hoop because you need to vibe a little to show her that you are worth it. YOU DO NOT want to fucking qualify yourself though. She has placed you in a position of very high value. Accept that and don’t question it; believe it and act it. You are the man in her life, not some retarded chode putting her on a pedestal.
This is a game of frame control. Her text as actually VERY CLEVER (a great example of clever bitch language), because although she is overtly putting you on a pedestal, the subtext is ACTUALLY, “are you good enough for all this effort.” How clever is that? She’s testing you and attempting to control the frame covertly, WHILST at face value doing the opposite. As HB9 texted to me the other day: “Dayam.”
So a response like:
“Haha. Of course, who wouldn’t want to come and meet the dudiest dude in the world. That boy sounds like a good lad, you ought not to keep using poor chaps like that
. I hope he’s right though. Because this gangstar don’t just see any girls you know. Listen, thanks for coming over by the way. Bring a Mars bar. There’s a very special reason for this, it’ll be a surprise…”Broken down:
“Haha. Of course, who wouldn’t want to come and meet the dudiest dude in the world.”
This is actually a pretty lame example of C&F, but basically cocky it out and use a funny trait, I used ‘dudey’. If you use a serious trait it will just be too cocky and not enough funny. If you have an inside joke it’d be better, like if you talked about fish earlier then say “of course, who wouldn’t want to meet the man with the greatest taste in fish ever.”
“That boy sounds like a good lad, you ought not to keep using poor chaps like that
.”This is a top line because it accomplishes many things. She is expecting you to get defensive – that is her shit test. But instead, you actually take HIS side and are really nice about him (hence ‘good lad’). BUT at the same time, you are massively lowering his value by implicitly framing him as a social retard. Furthermore, you refer to him as ‘boy’, ‘lad’, as if he is inferior. Finally, this is like a false disqualifier. You are setting them two up, exactly the opposite of what she expects. Good stuff.
“I hope he’s right though. Because this gangstar don’t just see any girls you know.”
She’s tested you, now it’s your turn to test her. It’s only fair. We’ve reversed the screening role and now WE are making HER qualify, rather than the other way. You’re also conveying that you have standards and in a way that she has ‘earnt’ you. You can work on this further later. Remember whilst you should be the man and leading, ideally you want her to be trying to pick you up.
“Listen, thanks for coming over by the way. Bring a Mars bar. There’s a very special reason for this, it’ll be a surprise…”
The first part is just being a genuine nice guy. Being a PUA doesn’t always mean being a fucking loser. It’s ok to be appreciative too. The Mars bar bit I cannot take credit for, I read it somewhere on this forum a while back. Basically when she brings it, you just say “thanks.” And then open it and eat it. It’s serious C&F. Hilarious stuff. You end on a cliff hanger to keep her interested and DHV.
There are some ideas I’ve thrown around for you. Basically we’ve evaded her hoop which is wired with shit-test explosives, and thrown our own hoop for her to jump into, whilst at the same time keeping and controlling the frame and DHV’ing.
Happy days. Hope this helps buddy
. Let me know how it goes.