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Author:  hbgmagnum [ Wed Mar 04, 2009 4:53 am ]
Post subject:  Am I going backwards?
Ok here's the background.. I'm recently out of a long bad relationship. I had a girl over (happened to be an ex gf, first love) she also recently out of a long bad relationship.

We've been hanging out, we'll lay together watch movies etc., one night about a week ago,we were having drinks, we ended up making out...all night, and i know she wanted to, but she resisted having sex, (i didn't push the subject either).

We hung out a couple days later, and she slept over (same bed) nothing happened though, not even kissing.

Tonight she came over to watch a movie and stayed on a different couch the entire time. We already have plans to hang out again this week and this weekend.

Did I just get placed in friend-zone? or is this a comfort thing? Is there recoverying? Any insight?
Author:  870 [ Wed Mar 04, 2009 5:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Am I going backwards?
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Ok here's the background.. I'm recently out of a long bad relationship. I had a girl over (happened to be an ex gf, first love) she also recently out of a long bad relationship.

We've been hanging out, we'll lay together watch movies etc., one night about a week ago,we were having drinks, we ended up making out...all night, and i know she wanted to, but she resisted having sex, (i didn't push the subject either).

We hung out a couple days later, and she slept over (same bed) nothing happened though, not even kissing.

Tonight she came over to watch a movie and stayed on a different couch the entire time. We already have plans to hang out again this week and this weekend.

Did I just get placed in friend-zone? or is this a comfort thing? Is there recoverying? Any insight?
When you say things like "I didn't push the subject" and "nothing happened," it makes me wonder if nothing happened because she didn't want to or because you were too chickenshit to take the lead and get a little aggressive.

I think you should read this post and internalize the lesson this guy learned at the end: ive-made-my-first-fwb-amp-lesson-learne ... 40679.html

The fact is, if you don't show that you are still interested after something like that happens, the girl will assume you've lost interest (or only had interest because you were tipsy) and then backward rationalize that she didn't like you that much anyway. Why? Because it's easier on her ego to believe that and go find another man than it is to accept the possibility that not all men want her.

Now with that in mind, go take what you want like a man :)

Your boy,
870
Author:  hbgmagnum [ Wed Mar 04, 2009 7:39 pm ]
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That is a great post you linked to.

What you said got me thinking. I want to fuck the shit out of her, but i can also get laid any night of the week (and do), I think what might be going on in the back of my head is that i may still like her more than just wanting to fuck her, and maybe i'm scared of risking that..

or maybe I'm just making excuses, not sure.. all I know is I dont have problems going where I want to go with most other girls, but its in large due to the fact that i dont really care if i screw up.

I will say this, when me and her are in that situation again, and I know it will only be a matter of when, i'm just going to go for it, theres no use holding back, its what i want and if she didn't want it she wouldn't be sitting on top of me kissing me right?
Author:  CaptRow [ Thu Mar 05, 2009 7:58 pm ]
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its what i want and if she didn't want it she wouldn't be sitting on top of me kissing me right?
exactly bro. if she tries to pull that LMR shit on you again, freeze her out man.
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