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Author:  Castle [ Mon Mar 02, 2009 8:28 am ]
Post subject:  How Alpha Male should I be?
So there is this girl I was gaming the other night at a party. I was getting IOIs and running good material. I didn't even really have to rely on too many canned things. Everything seemed to be going well but she drifted away to talk with her friends and I started to get anxious. I didn't feel like sticking around to try and kiss this girl because I had this overwhelming sense some over me to not look needy.

I think I was overthinking this though and that's my main point. I ended up leaving the party and not getting her phone number...all in all a bad close to a promising start. However I keep telling myself that the fact that I didn't throw myself at this girl was a good thing but again I didn't seal the deal. Anyways we go to school with each other and I like this girl...I want to see if there were any real sparks going on. But what the hell do I do now? Do I play the alpha male and not get in touch with her? I run the risk of not seeing her for awhile if I don't coordinate something. I know I should've pull the trigger but feel that I can still salvage this situation and want to meet up with this girl.

Any thoughts? Do I facebook her? Is that again too needy? I feel like if we hung out again in a social setting I could seal it.
Author:  870 [ Mon Mar 02, 2009 5:25 pm ]
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You seem to be very confused on exactly what alpha male behavior consists of. In your post, you said:
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Anyways we go to school with each other and I like this girl...I want to see if there were any real sparks going on. But what the hell do I do now?
You do whatever you want to do, that's what, and you go about it unapologetically. Hiding your desires and pretending you aren't interested is not only non-alpha, it's also counterproductive to your end goal of being with her.

See pretty girl -> Want pretty girl -> Go get pretty girl.

It's only needy if you NEED it, bro.

Your boy,
870
Author:  Castle [ Tue Mar 03, 2009 12:27 am ]
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Thanks for the response 870-

Yeah I should clarify what I meant and this is actually a broader question than just this girl. For instance I put in what I thought was good work the other night but I couldn't close the deal. My sticking point was a failure to kino escalate and kiss close...so I know where I went wrong and given another opportunity I am positive I could seal it. But that's my question...

Isn't it AFC of me to now pursue this girl after it didn't go down the other night? Maybe I blew my chance and just need to cut my losses. I know I'm over thinking it but would an Alpha Male bother trying to get ahold of this girl? I mean isn't it half the idea to not directly signal that you're into the girl? Or is that more of an opening/initial meeting type thing? I don't want to be that guy (which I am right now as it were) who laments over a girl...so I guess what I'm really getting at here is whether or not I should pursue this girl after not closing on the first meeting.

But thanks for the advice that makes sense...

-C
Author:  870 [ Tue Mar 03, 2009 2:44 am ]
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so I know where I went wrong and given another opportunity I am positive I could seal it. But that's my question...
Looks like you answered your own question here, bro :D
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Isn't it AFC of me to now pursue this girl after it didn't go down the other night? Maybe I blew my chance and just need to cut my losses. I know I'm over thinking it but would an Alpha Male bother trying to get ahold of this girl?
You have no losses to cut--you haven't invested anything! At this point, she's just some girl you talked to at a party one night, had a good time with and would like to see again. "AFC" is not an adjective, it's a state of being. If you're neither average, nor frustrated, nor a chump, you're probably good to go.
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I mean isn't it half the idea to not directly signal that you're into the girl? Or is that more of an opening/initial meeting type thing?
Actually, believe it or not there is an entire other school of game that involves being as direct as possible :) As much as I hate to bring it up, even Mystery Method, the most indirect of indirect game, suggests showing male-to-female interest in A3. Are you going to act like you're not into her when she's underneath you with her legs spread? You have to show interest at some point.
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I don't want to be that guy (which I am right now as it were) who laments over a girl...so I guess what I'm really getting at here is whether or not I should pursue this girl after not closing on the first meeting.
So don't lament over her. Continue living your life as you always have before, and if you want her, then by all means, make her a part of that. You guys had a good time together. You enjoyed each other's company. If the vibes were good, she will be eager to get them going again, and like you said above, you are positive you will seal the deal given another opportunity. So go create that opportunity :)

Your boy,
870
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