You can call me Alex, i've also felt the same way you do
for a long time ago.
What really happened in our minds is that, we had gotten rejected
quite some times when we were "naturals", we did not know any
thing about pickup, we would just go to some girl and talk about anything
without having a cue about what we're doing..
So up until the day you found out about the community, you realised what
you were doing right and wrong, so you decided to give it a try with your
new skills in social interraction....
The problem is...that..let's say before learning about pickup...
you had tried to do something with 20 girls in your life...
from these you screwed up with 18..so the ratio is generaly speaking
bad..because when now you're going to the field...
your mind thinks: well i want to pick up...
how did i do previously...well.. not so good...
from the 20 girls i approached..i've only gotten 2 numbers..
what are the possibilities to get a number in the next set?
that's the bad thing about it...your mind tries to convince you
that your possibilities of going well in your next set are very bad
because of the history of your pickups...
but your mind doesn't take account the new material you have in your
mind, your mind doesn't take account how successful
are these openers..these stuff that you can use and perform a natural
conversation with a woman, your mind tries to rely on possibilities...
what's worse, is that when you're at the venue, where there are women,
or whatever, and you see women, your mind will try to find excuses
in order NOT to approach these women because of your bad
success/failure ratio in pickup untill now..
for example, if you took the decision to go to a club to try your pickup
skills...when you'll enter the club...you may want to go to the bathroom first,and then come back and start sarging..but that's not really you
it's just your mind that's playing with possibilities,
and wants you to keep you safe from failing,
BUT KEEPING YOU SAFE FROM FAILING,
KEEPS YOU ALSO AWAY FROM SUCCEEDING WITH WOMEN...
man,,this is such a dead-end location..
In order to manage to get out of this zone you have to push
yourself to the limit...
find a buddy of yours..give him 50 bucks and tell him for each approach
you'll do he'll give you 5 bucks back...
You have to motivate your mind into passing this
"NO FAILURE-NO SUCCEEDING" strategy
and going to the
LESS FAILURE-MORE SUCCEEDING..
You don't actually have to go out 4-5-6 nights a week out to pickup...
tell yourself you'll go out 2 days a week...
but when i'll go out these days...i'll make it worth it..
do you understand me?
hope i helped, good luck pal!
