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| Author: | Legendat24 [ Sat Jan 17, 2009 5:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Success Barriers |
In Self help, I believe that many of us have success barriers whether we realize it or not. It is a difficult task to change any aspect of your life and I believe the brain subconsciously resists it. Each of us has been conditioned through social conditioning to delay happiness and put it in the future. The whole Hollywood mentality that one day everything will work out. In reality, when is it going to work out? When I am dead? Who’s going to change, me if not me? One day I will get there. It will be OK in the future. I will get there when I get there. I hear Edge say things like “I’ll get there when I get there.” Sure it’s a nice comforting thought but screw it. For me personally enough is enough. I have to do it. It’s a new year and a great time to get motivated. Stop living in comfort. If I can actually harness the motivation and create momentum to take more action then maybe I will get there tomorrow instead of two years from now. It’s all about taking that first step. That first little bit of action towards change is the hardest. You have to get up every morning and repeat the first step and then learning how to constantly motivate yourself to continue to take action. It’s hard, but I’ve laid out the system for myself. Now all I have to do is follow it. It’s that simple. The mind subconsciously deters us from changing because as we are sitting here right now, biologically everything is fine. As long as we have enough food to survive our bodies are happy. Changing your surroundings and conditions requires a lot of effort. If you change, there is also that unconscious uncertainty of what will happen because you’re changing conditions. This is scary to the subconscious mind. In reality, even when you’re changing for the better it is still a change and very difficult. I am not really sure how to deal with success barriers except for now to acknowledge that they exist and hold myself to a strict schedule of taking action to reach my goals so I will actually change. I have to barrel through the mental blocks to get there. You know that feeling when you feel tired and you don’t want to do something. You just want to go to bed instead of doing it. Like how my brain just wants me to chill out on Facebook instead of writing. I’ve had enough. I’m saying no. This is a new year and the more you do, the more you want to do. I am setting a precident for myself. I’m dedicating myself to change and blasting through my mental barriers no matter how difficult it is. I want it now, not next year. I invite you to do the same. |
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| Author: | Munroe (MUNROE) [ Sat Jan 17, 2009 8:30 pm ] |
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I have a “I’ll get there when I get there” mentality, but then again, I go out 5-6 nights a week. I just go out, have fun, and try to learn something or develop some new reference experience every night. With that kind of mindset, I know that breakthroughs will and have happened on their own, so I don't pressure myself or create any identities that I have to live up to. It's not a bad mindset to take, as long as you're consistently practicing. My long term goal is to change my belief systems. Currently I have a great will to approach, so I approach constantly and have very little issues with approach anxiety. However, my will to approach is fueled by indifference, as opposed to true belief. True belief is formed through the gathering of evidence and positive reinforcement, which requires doing a lot of approaches and being indifferent to outcomes, and which requires that you go out a lot. So first things first, GO OUT!!!! |
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| Author: | Legendat24 [ Wed Jan 21, 2009 8:19 pm ] |
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Quote: I have a “I’ll get there when I get there” mentality, but then again, I go out 5-6 nights a week.
I agree the "I'll get there when I get there" mind set is good provided that we are taking action.I just go out, have fun, and try to learn something or develop some new reference experience every night. With that kind of mindset, I know that breakthroughs will and have happened on their own, so I don't pressure myself or create any identities that I have to live up to. It's not a bad mindset to take, as long as you're consistently practicing. My long term goal is to change my belief systems. Currently I have a great will to approach, so I approach constantly and have very little issues with approach anxiety. However, my will to approach is fueled by indifference, as opposed to true belief. True belief is formed through the gathering of evidence and positive reinforcement, which requires doing a lot of approaches and being indifferent to outcomes, and which requires that you go out a lot. So first things first, GO OUT!!!! The whole true belief is a good thing to aspire to. Sometimes I wonder if we can actually get there but I believe that if we keep it up eventually we will. It does take a long time to learn anything really well. |
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