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Author:  HomeWrecker [ Mon Jan 05, 2009 12:12 am ]
Post subject:  Lack Of Motivation.
Hey Guys,
Ive gotten to the stage where I can walk into a club and have 6 or so girls approach me in an hour (without me doing anything).

As a result I find it too easy, when they throw themselves at me I feel repulsed. Does anyone get this?

I like the attention but lack the motivation to go further. And when I do, I get bored easily.

I think in the beginning I used the game as a way of verification. To prove to myself that I was desirable and to my mates that I could pull women. I no longer see the need to sleep with as many women as possible, because I no longer have the fear/insecurity. Which means I no longer have the drive.

Has anyone else had similar thoughts? And have you found a way around it?
Author:  Munroe (MUNROE) [ Mon Jan 05, 2009 6:42 am ]
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Maybe this means that you should consider transitioning into a relationship.

If you're getting a lot of female attention, why not start to genuinely qualify them and find a girl that you're truly interested in?
Author:  Kalel [ Sat Jan 10, 2009 8:40 am ]
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The real question here is "What do you want to do?". Forget what you think everyone else wants, what do you want? Do you want a relationship? Do you want a family? Do you want higher quality women? Do you want more success in other aspects of your life? Until you figure out what you truly want out of life and not what you think society or your peer group wants you to have, you'll never be happy.
Author:  casanovareborn [ Wed Jan 21, 2009 4:56 am ]
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Let me share my view. I think you should aim to make women feel good, and your motivation then becomes, "hey, i am doing the world good by making women feel good." Maybe your not motivated because now you want more than one thing, and you havent decided on something to focus on yet. Your old motivation was, "i have to prove myself." Well you think you have, but more must be done. Go out with a girl, give her a massage, make her feel like the most special girl in the world. She will then tell her friends. Her friends will have new hope that there are guys out there still who will sweep them off their feet.

Give women want they want. Protect them. Serve them. Lets bring back chivalry!
Author:  Kalel [ Sat Jan 24, 2009 5:14 am ]
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make her feel like the most special girl in the world. She will then tell her friends. Her friends will have new hope that there are guys out there still who will sweep them off their feet.

Give women want they want. Protect them. Serve them. Lets bring back chivalry!
It would be nice if the world was that simple, but it's not.

If you make a girl feel that special, she's not going to appreciate you and tell all of her friends. She's going to lose interest and go bang some other jackass that makes her feel like a human being instead of a puppet master.
Author:  casanovareborn [ Sat Jan 24, 2009 11:24 pm ]
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If you make a girl feel that special, she's not going to appreciate you and tell all of her friends. She's going to lose interest and go bang some other jackass that makes her feel like a human being instead of a puppet master.[/quote]


I am talking about later on in the relationship. You don't start off by making her the happiest girl in the world, that comes later. That comes once she realizes how much of a catch you are, and how valuable you are.

Once she finds a place in her heart for you, make her dreams come true.

Casanova followed this plan, and has never been beat. Like a broom, he swept girls right off their feet.
Author:  Kalel [ Sun Jan 25, 2009 4:30 am ]
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Casanova followed this plan, and has never been beat. Like a broom, he swept girls right off their feet.
Yes he did, but that was all part of the pickup. Never forget that he went from woman to woman, conquest to conquest. Everything he did was calculated and planned out. He swept them off their feet so he could get them into bed, not for their sake.

I'm all for making yourself a better catch and making sure the she knows it. But you don't do that by serving her, fawning over her, or making all her dreams come true (however the hell you do that). You do it by making yourself a better person. You do it by improving all the various aspects of your life and you will be a better catch. Being a catch isn't about what you do for her, it's about who you are.

If you want a good relationship, you shouldn't be focused on how to serve a woman or please a woman. There are times when this is good and even necessary, but not all the time. If you want a good relationship you must see each others as equals and treat each other as equals. No one should serve the other, but simply enjoy each others' company. This is the only way to have a true adult relationship that lasts.

Not to mention that Casanova has been beat, many many times. Granted that he lived in a time of smaller populations, but Wilt Chamberlain claims to have slept with over 20,000 women which is 100 times as much as Casanova claimed.
Author:  casanovareborn [ Sun Jan 25, 2009 5:58 am ]
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Casanova followed this plan, and has never been beat. Like a broom, he swept girls right off their feet.
Yes he did, but that was all part of the pickup. Never forget that he went from woman to woman, conquest to conquest. Everything he did was calculated and planned out. He swept them off their feet so he could get them into bed, not for their sake.

I'm all for making yourself a better catch and making sure the she knows it. But you don't do that by serving her, fawning over her, or making all her dreams come true (however the hell you do that). You do it by making yourself a better person. You do it by improving all the various aspects of your life and you will be a better catch. Being a catch isn't about what you do for her, it's about who you are.

If you want a good relationship, you shouldn't be focused on how to serve a woman or please a woman. There are times when this is good and even necessary, but not all the time. If you want a good relationship you must see each others as equals and treat each other as equals. No one should serve the other, but simply enjoy each others' company. This is the only way to have a true adult relationship that lasts.

Not to mention that Casanova has been beat, many many times. Granted that he lived in a time of smaller populations, but Wilt Chamberlain claims to have slept with over 20,000 women which is 100 times as much as Casanova claimed.

Ok, the simple truth is that you must make her feel good, and theres nothing else to it. You are completely misinterpreting what i am saying. There are ways to pick up girls, and there are ways to make people happy human beings. Everything i have said falls into the second category, making people happy. Getting girls is a very different subject. The algorithm for getting girls doesnt really involve making girls dreams come true. However, the algorithm for making girls happy certainly, positively, without any doubt, involves that. Women fantasize about men taking them on wonderful adventures, anywhere away from the norm. If you want to evolve from being just a pickup artist, it is neccessary to understand this concept clearly. Hopefully you will have your aha :idea: moment soon, and will see that in a true relationship, ones that last a lifetime, ones that are grand enough they are viewable even to this day,(the taj mahal) all follow one simple concept: no one is happy unless the wife is happy. :D In the art of pickup, this wont help you. In the art of life, and full fledged relationships, it is vital. If you dont consider this, you are in for one heck of a boring marriage, and good luck with the rest of your dull life. 8) 8) 8)
Author:  Kalel [ Sun Jan 25, 2009 7:03 am ]
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What I’m saying is that your simple truth, isn’t as simple as you think it is. You still have a lot of misconceptions about what women truly want. Yes nice trips and extravagances are nice, but those are physical things. All the flowers and fancy trips in the world won’t keep a woman. You have to realize that women want more than simple romance. They want a strong, confident, masculine force in their life that they can lean against for support. And that doesn’t come from supplicating women with gifts and things, it comes from inside of you. You need to work on become a well-rounded confident man if you want to keep a woman.

So while you think you are giving a woman everything she wants and making all her dreams come true, you’re not giving her what she truly wants, you’re giving her the opposite (i.e. a weak supplicating man).

I remember thinking the way you do, I truly do. But I also remember how badly that way of thinking works in the end. You would think that it makes sense, but womens' wants are counter intuitive and a lot of time they want the opposite of what they say they want.

There is nothing wrong with being nice to the woman you love, but that should come naturally from being a man, not planned out. Most of the time when men feel the need to give gifts and impress woman, it comes from a deep seeded sense of insecurity about themselves. They feel a need to overcompensate because they feel that they are not worthy of the women that they are with. These are inner game problems that must be resolved. If you don’t resolve these before marriage, you’re setting yourself up for defeat. Although things may work in the short run, supplicating men are ultimately boring to women. This is why the divorce rate is so high. Do you think that you are the first man who thinks that being nice to his wife will make the marriage work in the long run? Relationships are hard work, and being nice is obviously an oversimplification of an answer. Do you have any idea how much psychology is involved in the integration of two psyches in terms of a marriage? It isn’t as cut and dry as being nice! It would great if it was, but its not! Life isn’t that easy.
Author:  casanovareborn [ Sun Jan 25, 2009 4:56 pm ]
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i believe this well rounded confident man is complimentary to being romantic. Many womens idea of romance involve a protector who they can lean against and who can support them. Think dartagnan in the three muskeers. He is romantic, yet strong and supportive. He will defend his woman with his life. I think we are on agreeable terms right now. Guys giving their woman flowers isnt really romantic in my opinion. it takes a different approach. "In order to be extraordinary, one must be different."

Girls, even at a early age, dream about being princesses. Romance novels are devoured by women all around the globe. I just think most women in general seek romance much more than men do. I agree completely whith what you say about developing yourself on the inside. I also believe that your "inside" can be romantic as well. SOmeones personality can be romantic.

If i were to tell you i was offering an exciting, extraordinary, different, fun, cool ,stylish, funny, social, good looking, smart, intersting, romantic personality to women, then it would be believable for that person to become a mpua. Thank you for that exchange, and i believe it was beneficial. I love it when two people disagree, because then it forces you to look at your ideas and decide on what you think is right. Thanks again. :D
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