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| Author: | amogtilldeath [ Thu Dec 25, 2008 8:18 am ] |
| Post subject: | Need Help Fclosing and what to do now |
So the other day I was at a party and I built some comfort with this girl...negged her kino escalated got her number ...and right when she left she txted you better call me.. I said isnt that your job blah blah...so anyway I called her the next night and was going out for drinks with some friends and told her to come along she said she would maybe stop by i didnt end up going but the next day I got a txt from her saying Im sorry I couldn't come but I would have if I didnt fall asleep...I told her no worries and we'd get together some other time...next night I call her and she comes out when me and my frends are out...I have a few drinks and we go out for a smoke and make out...then I say we should hang out later and she says yeah she'll drop her friend off she comes over we make out more etc...I try to take her pants off after alittle foreplay and she says I dont even know you...I laugh and say yeah I understand...and just move on...kind of freezing out..but still making out with her so not completely...anyway so shes been txting me saying stuff like you should come by my store if you are around... and i text her back with negs...and little things....but today I txt her and say im gonna be at my frends for drinks you should come along and before she told me she'd be at dinner...so she said maybe I have alot of catching up to do with my girlfriend....then I havent' heard from her which isn't a big deal but should I stop asking her to come out and hang out? even if we already have a small connection...and just wait for her to ask me to do something and stop txting her...? and how should I move on with this situation.... Also should I stop with negs in the text...I've been throwing small negs...but also saying things like its kinda cute though... Any help would be much appreciated -Thanks |
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| Author: | R.G. [ Thu Dec 25, 2008 1:10 pm ] |
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There are a few points and pointers to be made, but I think the main thing is that you're too easy mate. You have to convey standards. She should be trying to take your pants off and you giving LMR, not the other way. By the way, "I don't even know you" is metalanguage/subcommunication/bitch language for "tell me your name and let's fuck", which is my language for '5 more mins of sarging and her pants are coming off'. So you should have closed her there. If you fail to escalate when escalation is due then you kill the momentum of the entire relationship and you'll be freezed out, like you have, or friendzoned. You need to keep the frame. You inviting her out all the time is bad, she OWNS you, you're her bitch. She's using you, she probably has 10 other guys like you on the side, all serving different uses in her life. Don't be a tool. Right now I would just freeze her out and forget about her until she calls you, there is no shortage of girls, no reason to chase this one. Alternatively you could invite her round or out one more time and sarge her properly. Don't be supplicating to her, invite her out, and then run some errands with her that you have to get done, like do some grocery shopping or something. Then you'll show her that you don't need her, and then go back to sarging and bed her =). Or you could ask her to take you out. You can have a high chance of success with this if you call her out on being a bit of a slut by coming out with you loads but not inviting YOU with her. But if you don't have value before pitching this it won't work. You need value. Hope this helps. |
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| Author: | amogtilldeath [ Thu Dec 25, 2008 8:08 pm ] |
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Thanks mate, appreciate the advice.. I will definitely try that |
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| Author: | amogtilldeath [ Thu Dec 25, 2008 8:23 pm ] |
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Also I wouldn't say that I am her bitch right now I mean I left my phone at home one day when I went out the whole day and she texted me once then texted me again 1 1/2 hours later .... then i texted her like 6 hrs after that....Also when she was txting me yesterday I tried to double the time it took for her to txt me if she txt me back in 15 minutes i'd text her back in 30 etc. I do agree that I am maybe asking her to come out too much...and giving her a bit of control. Also what are some things I should talk to her about ? should I get to know her ona more emotional level if she asks me to do something again?...I was thinking stuff like yeah I can tell that the girl you were with the other night you guys weren't that close...I get the vibe that shes not one of your close friends blah blah..she mentioned that she was close with her mom and her dad lived in another house so should I mention that? or should I just leave that shit alone? |
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| Author: | amogtilldeath [ Thu Dec 25, 2008 8:38 pm ] |
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I also kind of get the vibe that she is interested and Im not just being a bitch...I mean I texted her stuff the next day like...you should of paid more attention to that movie..and kept your hands off me...I really wanted to watch it...and she would laugh and say well next time you should do a better job concentrating...and I would neg her little things...should I continute this playful neggin or stop this completely ? |
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