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| Author: | Moreno [ Wed Dec 17, 2008 11:29 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Need for read--Important Situation needs Solution |
I will not give away my real name for the moment, instead what i really seek is some validation to pump up my game. My story goes like this:I'm 18 years old right now and i've figured out how to become attracted to women without even starting the conversation, using extremely confident body language and certain types of "peacock" to stand out of the crowd in a logical way I can see clearly, women far more older than be, being attracted to me, i've had myself study hundreds of material, including Mystery, David DeAngelo, Alex Coulson, Style,Ross Jeffries(NLP) and many more. The problem is this...and it's quite ridiculous, i know what to say, how to say it, and when to say it, but I JUST DON'T PULL THE TRIGGER. For example, i dressed up today, very handsomely, and i had plans to go to a crowdy club, but the moment i arrived at the door i said to myself: "FUCK THIS" and went away.And most of the time i find excuses like "i need to study more of pickup in order to solve my problem" What i really want from you guys, is, give me some validation, i don't mind if you talk rudely to me, because one day i'll be great and i know it, and i'll be laughing to myself for what i've posted right now, any comments appreciated, Alexei[/b] |
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| Author: | BamBam [ Thu Dec 18, 2008 12:32 am ] |
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Ive actually recently met a guy who had an issue similar to this, he said that it was a big step for him to ever go into a situation or place that is outside of his comfort zone. I think that is your only issue right now, and your making excuses to avoid these situations. Hey atleast you made it to the door?... I don't know if you've got everything locked down all you need is to put it into practice which means no excuses anymore. You've read more books than probably 70% of the people on this forum you're already a pro in theory. |
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| Author: | Munroe (MUNROE) [ Thu Dec 18, 2008 3:28 am ] |
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You can read everything in the world and it mean nothing if it doesn't result in deep level identity change. I have the feeling you were reading this stuff while not practicing it at all. Are you even opening on anyone? Here's what you do: you start at the beginning. Go to a public place, such as a mall, and start greeting random strangers for a few hours. Be a real jackass about it if you have to, but break your approach anxiety. Consider finding some wings as well. Wingmen are there for more than just helping you in set, they motivate you when you're out of set. |
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| Author: | Moreno [ Thu Dec 18, 2008 6:11 pm ] |
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let's say that a a newbie in pua is like going in the field with an old-fashioned car, that goes 60 km/h, nothing special, and a pro in the pua goes like with a lambo 320 km/h...i feel like i've got a lambo when i'm in the field, but i just can't turn on the engine, i mean other people see me i'm so promising with my looks etc. But i lack the confidence to mess up with everyone, is there any way that i could give myself a boost of confidence besides warm-ups? |
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| Author: | VSaon [ Thu Dec 18, 2008 6:42 pm ] |
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I've read a ton of shit here and other places but its true that getting out there and talking to people helps. Not just HB's but EVERYONE, seriously. At work, at the grocery store, the gas station, wherever. Just do it, don't even worry about starting a conversation just say hi or help them with something. ANYTHING, just say something. It even helps to talk to guys since you don't want anything from them. Also, try having a drink before you get to the bar if it helps just dont get wasted. I did that last week it was funny I was pimpin all night but the last hour I was tanked and did/said a thing or two that was a bit off. Whoops. Just have fun, go with a friend to one place a couple times and try to meet enough people so you can go there alone eventually and have someone to talk to when you need a breather. Helps to have some social proof too. When you're a once a week regular at one place on the same day you'll be comfortable going alone. Oh, and dress bad ass and a bit different than everyone else. That'll make you feel sweet. |
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| Author: | Munroe (MUNROE) [ Thu Dec 18, 2008 7:06 pm ] |
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Quote: let's say that a a newbie in pua is like going in the field with an old-fashioned car, that goes 60 km/h, nothing special, and a pro in the pua goes like with a lambo 320 km/h...i feel like i've got a lambo when i'm in the field, but i just can't turn on the engine, i mean other people see me i'm so promising with my looks etc. But i lack the confidence to mess up with everyone, is there any way that i could give myself a boost of confidence besides warm-ups?
Why are you scared of warm-ups? You have approach anxiety. It is so bad that you're not even able to enter social situations. At this point, your anxiety sounds so bad that even if you did enter, I think you'd probably fuck it up and end up going home depressed. You're not even close to being in state. Listen, you need to acknowledge and accept the fact that you're going to fail a lot. Its going to take countless failures before you are able to achieve consistent success. Stop being afraid of failure and pre-accept that its going to happen. You've read a million books, but now its time to forget them for the time being and do the newbie mission. Go into the field and start greeting random strangers. |
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