Hey guys, im pretty new to the game, im a shy college student who just really cant seem to get up the nerve to speak with women. heres my story and my problem.
The Story:
In my math class there is this gorgeous blonde that I ran into, she initiated the small talk with me and we had a decent little conversation going, untill the prof got mad and kicked me out of class for being disruptive (i got major brownie points cuz she felt bad.) this is how we met, since then ive sat beside her in math for about 2 and a half months (long time I know =\) weve gone and had lunch in the caf a few times and study math together but we havent had a large amount of time to just talk to each other on a more personal level due to the constraints of the times and places that we are together.
About half a week ago I finally had the nerve to ask her out on a date, but before I could she told me about how she had a horrible night the night before because her on again off again BF (which she had never mentioned before) of 2 years broke it off with her and has had a change of heart, he was texting her trying to get her to take him back. On a friends advice I played the guy off as an idiot for letting her go and in general made it seem like a bad idea to hook up with him again, all in all that seems to have gone well but it killed my plans to ask her that day. after talking it out with a friend of mine he said now would be the perfect time to make a move, the term he used was "wounded prey". it made sense so i tried asking her if she wanted to go out and do something later that night, she gave me a dodge response saying
"I dunno, you arent the first person who wants to hang out tonight, a couple of my friends have asked as well and I dont know what im going to do."
My friend who is now determined to get me the girl is offering all sorts of advice and we settled on the fake text approach, aka I send a text meant for my "friend" which she "accidentally" recieves. the following is the texts that we went back and forth with.
Me: "Hey man, I am going to have to pass on tonight, I asked that girl from my class out and I am waiting for her response, Wish me luck! have fun tonight!"
this was to convey that I am giving up other (fun) plans just for the chance to hang out with her, also that i have spoken about her to a friend and am thinking of her. that was the intent anyways.
Her: "ok, have fun"
(naturally I assume shes playful)
Me: "Have fun with?"
Her: "That girl from your class that you texted me about"
Me: "oh... oh god i sent that text to you? how awkward... Sorry?"
(i had hoped to bait her a little bit, asking sorry like a question as if "should i be sorry?")
Her: "oh, i thought you meant some other girl in your class
"(making note of the smiley face I definately figured she was flirting and playing with me)
Me: "no, that text was definately referring to you"
Her: "Wow, that was up frount haha i feel like we have a strong friendship and I dont want to wreck it"
(at this point i panic and get my friend involved again and he attempted to salvage it for me with the following text)
Me: "Why does it have to get wrecked? you decided we already dated and broke up already? damn, i feel like you got me with my hands tied."
Her: "I dunno, like i just got out of a two year relationship and I dont want to date anyone for a long time. I just want to be friends with you, and all guys right now..."
this is where we left it off, I have yet to reply to this, my friend has written her off and I am starting to suffer from "one-itis" because I really like this chick and I want to see where it goes.
can anyone offer any sort of advice to push through this and win her over?
