PUA Forum :: How do i lose my filter?

So im getting good at just talking to girl but i filter the thing i say because i dont wanna be too offensive, or rude, ect. So i guess i dont really give them that feeling so i end up as a 'friend'.

How do i get rid of my filter. Im always trying to be so polite and proper but im getting sick of it? Any ways to train myself on this?

Just about every other weekend i go to the club and talk to some girls. Most of them barely speak english though so its hard to communicate. And its a small town in a rural area so its the same girls every time i go.

Idk i just feel like every other guy talking to these girls says the same thing and i want to stand out but it seems like me talking normally isnt working. I do keep some stuff in my head but thats just cause i feel i should build up to it but i usually take too long so when i do say it its weird.

You ever try day game?

Switching up the venues?

Parks? Cafes? Malls?

Quote:

If you want to get really good you need to go out FARRRR more than twice a month.

Why do they "barely speak english?"
Why are you even concentrating on talking if you're in the club?
What is stopping you from moving outside of your "rural area small town" to talk to more girls?

Author:	FeaganMox [ Mon Aug 08, 2016 8:51 pm ]
Post subject:	How do i lose my filter?
So im getting good at just talking to girl but i filter the thing i say because i dont wanna be too offensive, or rude, ect. So i guess i dont really give them that feeling so i end up as a 'friend'. How do i get rid of my filter. Im always trying to be so polite and proper but im getting sick of it? Any ways to train myself on this?

Author:	JackZero [ Mon Aug 08, 2016 10:08 pm ]
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Lock yourself in a room and watch pornhub for about two hours without jerking off. You'll be so worked up that your filter will shut down. J/k...just realize that there are two people and one is usually trying to live up to the other's expectation. Be the guy that the woman is trying to live up to. It's just asserting yourself as the person who is going to lead.

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Wed Aug 10, 2016 5:42 pm ]
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When you get rejected enough for being too "nice" you'll begin to shed the "polite" skin and communicate more honestly about how you feel. It'll come with more approach experience. How many women have you approached in total?

Author:	FeaganMox [ Wed Aug 10, 2016 6:35 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How do i lose my filter?
Just about every other weekend i go to the club and talk to some girls. Most of them barely speak english though so its hard to communicate. And its a small town in a rural area so its the same girls every time i go. Idk i just feel like every other guy talking to these girls says the same thing and i want to stand out but it seems like me talking normally isnt working. I do keep some stuff in my head but thats just cause i feel i should build up to it but i usually take too long so when i do say it its weird.

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Wed Aug 10, 2016 6:36 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How do i lose my filter?
You ever try day game? Switching up the venues? Parks? Cafes? Malls?

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Author:	Heywood Jablowme [ Thu Aug 11, 2016 5:31 pm ]
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Quote: So im getting good at just talking to girl but i filter the thing i say because i dont wanna be too offensive, or rude, ect. So i guess i dont really give them that feeling so i end up as a 'friend'. How do i get rid of my filter. Im always trying to be so polite and proper but im getting sick of it? Any ways to train myself on this? Just by realizing it's okay to be bold, it's fine to be yourself. Why be afraid of what a woman will say? Those who attracted to you will react positively! And those who don’t aren’t worth listening to anyway. Never be afraid to be loud, be afraid to have no voice. Never be afraid of the thoughts of others, be afraid of not being true to who you are.

Author:	ChocolatePUA [ Tue Aug 16, 2016 7:37 pm ]
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Quote: Just about every other weekend i go to the club and talk to some girls. Most of them barely speak english though so its hard to communicate. And its a small town in a rural area so its the same girls every time i go. Idk i just feel like every other guy talking to these girls says the same thing and i want to stand out but it seems like me talking normally isnt working. I do keep some stuff in my head but thats just cause i feel i should build up to it but i usually take too long so when i do say it its weird. If you want to get really good you need to go out FARRRR more than twice a month. Why do they "barely speak english?" Why are you even concentrating on talking if you're in the club? What is stopping you from moving outside of your "rural area small town" to talk to more girls?

Author:	methodology [ Thu Sep 01, 2016 1:49 am ]
Post subject:	Re: How do i lose my filter?
As long as your primary concern is what they think, which makes it a form of manipulation, then you won't have anything to say beyond what you want them to think of you. You can't even be yourself until you discover who that is. If you think you're being too politically correct, then lose it. However, if your main concern for shedding your filter is the reaction you'll gain from women then you aren't losing your filter at all. You're just becoming craftier at being who they want. In turn, you become their puppet and slave. Being "you" is an objective in itself, and as long as you like who that person is, then the right person will be attracted to that and that person will reinforce your current, confident idea of yourself rather than trying to change it. Find out who you are first. Then find out who likes that person. Not the other way around.

Author:	FeaganMox [ Sun Sep 04, 2016 2:18 pm ]
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Quote: You ever try day game? Switching up the venues? Parks? Cafes? Malls? Yeah but where i live i have no idea where the girls my age go in the day. I think most of them go to school and stay inside because around here its not much to do besides bars and clubs. I asked a girl that is from here where do all the girls go and she never tells me.

Author:	FeaganMox [ Sun Sep 04, 2016 2:21 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How do i lose my filter?
Quote: Quote: Just about every other weekend i go to the club and talk to some girls. Most of them barely speak english though so its hard to communicate. And its a small town in a rural area so its the same girls every time i go. Idk i just feel like every other guy talking to these girls says the same thing and i want to stand out but it seems like me talking normally isnt working. I do keep some stuff in my head but thats just cause i feel i should build up to it but i usually take too long so when i do say it its weird. If you want to get really good you need to go out FARRRR more than twice a month. Why do they "barely speak english?" Why are you even concentrating on talking if you're in the club? What is stopping you from moving outside of your "rural area small town" to talk to more girls? Where i live theres about 3 clubs in the same area. To go to another good club you'd have to drive about 2 hours, and get a hotel for the night which is exspensive. And i live in europe. Many of the women my age (20's) dont know too much english (where i live). And i live on a military base

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