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| Author: | Noone [ Mon Jun 08, 2015 6:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Overcoming Mental Blocks for Daygame Approaching |
Why do I have such a mental block when it comes to approaching during the day? I'm aware that rejection is going to happen to anyone, it can actually be a good process for weeding out girls that are uninterested/taken and that it saves you investment time on an avenue going nowhere, and that it is a numbers game in some respects. I'm aware that any girl out there isn't going to dislike a guy showing her attention, as long as he's not a creep, and that there's a girl out there just waiting for me to get my shit together, approach, make their day, even their lives. Girls want to be desired, they want a cool meet-cute story for their friends, they have that romance in them from early faery-tales to the movies they watch. I can approach at night. I can approach in social circles. But a stranger in day game and it feels like there is something blocking me from action and I don't know how to break it down. To just submit to the action, act and go for what I desire. I'm not being true to myself, as a man, to my desires, to not approach a girl I see somewhere that is intriguing or attractive to me, to find out if there's more behind her pretty exterior that would warrant me investing time and feelings into her. I need to smash this mental block so that I can approach in day game and get some positive momentum going toward finding a girl suited for me in a long term relationship capacity. |
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| Author: | PatrickAnanda [ Tue Jun 09, 2015 12:02 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Overcoming Mental Blocks for Daygame Approaching |
Quote: Why do I have such a mental block when it comes to approaching during the day?
Hey brotherI'm aware that rejection is going to happen to anyone, it can actually be a good process for weeding out girls that are uninterested/taken and that it saves you investment time on an avenue going nowhere, and that it is a numbers game in some respects. I'm aware that any girl out there isn't going to dislike a guy showing her attention, as long as he's not a creep, and that there's a girl out there just waiting for me to get my shit together, approach, make their day, even their lives. Girls want to be desired, they want a cool meet-cute story for their friends, they have that romance in them from early faery-tales to the movies they watch. I can approach at night. I can approach in social circles. But a stranger in day game and it feels like there is something blocking me from action and I don't know how to break it down. To just submit to the action, act and go for what I desire. I'm not being true to myself, as a man, to my desires, to not approach a girl I see somewhere that is intriguing or attractive to me, to find out if there's more behind her pretty exterior that would warrant me investing time and feelings into her. I need to smash this mental block so that I can approach in day game and get some positive momentum going toward finding a girl suited for me in a long term relationship capacity. do you want the real answer? The actual, molecular reason you feel the way you do, and not some stupid generic 'just keep approaching' bullshit response? "Better than knowledge is meditation, but better still is surrender of attachment to results, for there follows immediate peace" - Bhagavad Gita. In short, you stumble in confusion because you want. I don't mean the pure kind of want, like you mentioned in your own post (women WANT to be desired), but I mean the selfish egoic kind of want. As long as her reactions to you have the ability to determine your self-worth, you will always feel that crippling fear. Women do not want to be the measure of how good you feel about yourself. This applies to seduction as a whole, but just during the day. The point though, is that you approach because you have an aim, an ulterior motive, and so you feel nervous, because you are hoping to achieve something. "You only lose what you cling to" - Buddha Let go man. Stop clinging to yourself, it was never meant to be about you. Stop wanting anything. Make it a habit to go around giving (ugh, pua terms) 'value' to 5 people a day. But fuck that shit man, honestly just give love! Be the spreader of good vibes, of positivity and kindness, without ever asking for anything in return, and you will see your life flood with abundance. 5 compliments a day to 5 strangers who can never do anything to repay you. I challenge you. With love and respect Mack |
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| Author: | DrexelScott [ Tue Jun 09, 2015 9:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Overcoming Mental Blocks for Daygame Approaching |
It is far easier to act yourself into right thinking than to think yourself into right action. |
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| Author: | Huey_Hattan [ Wed Jun 10, 2015 2:11 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Overcoming Mental Blocks for Daygame Approaching |
I actually prefer day game to night because it's more chill. But personally what I've found that what works is just simply getting out of your head. When I approach at night or day I do my best when I'm not thinking about anything. I don't think that I want her, I don't think what if she rejects me, and I rarely think about what to say. My thought process is "She's cute. Oh she's doing (insert action here)" then I approach and open her about whatever she's doing. And what I've found out is that its actually fun doing it this way and meeting more people, and new women. When I first got started I wondered is this how saiyans felt when going super saiyan, it was just that kind of high. It works for me, so it could work for you. I'll end it with a quote by my favorite gym celebrity. "Get out of your head about it man. Just show up" - Tony Horton That's literally half the battle imo. |
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