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| Author: | swiftdart [ Wed May 13, 2015 2:05 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Nervous About Losing V-Card |
Okay guys, so I have quite a major sticking point here that is severely hindering my game. I'll skip all the background stuff and get to the point. I have ZERO problems getting girls hooked, the problem is that I start holding back when it's time to fuck, instead of surging forward, since I never have before. One of the major problems making me nervous is that the few times I was trying to go all the way, I had a bj and came really quick. This how now turned into anxiety about not lasting long at all and is making me not pursue having sex like I should be doing. It's on a silver platter for me at this point anywhere I want it. Just this weekend, I was with a girl that has been asking for it for the last couple of months. I started drinking heavily to see if this would take off some of the edge, and hopefully make me not as sensitive down there. Well, it back fired, I ended up getting wasted and had a naked girl on top of me grinding on a limp dick. Needless to say, she got pretty pissed, and has been mad at me ever since, because all she talked about was wanting me to be smashing her. Any one else go thru this type of situation in the beginning? Is this something that will hopefully go away after the first time? I really don't want to fuck it up with this girl, I want to give her what she wants. This is embarrassing to talk about, but once I get over this fear, the possibilities for me as a PUA are endless. |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Wed May 13, 2015 2:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Nervous About Losing V-Card |
What's your age? |
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| Author: | swiftdart [ Wed May 13, 2015 2:29 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Nervous About Losing V-Card |
Quote: What's your age?
I am 23 by the way.
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Wed May 13, 2015 2:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Nervous About Losing V-Card |
It's gonna be quick the first time, dude... Just go again after, and don't make a big deal out of it... I wouldn't go out of your way to say you're a virgin, or try to explain away a quick trigger. Laugh it off and say something like "wow... to be continued!" --- Won't be a huge deal unless you make it a huge deal. Prolong foreplay too... Control the pace. If you feel things getting close, back off a bit and focus on other areas... |
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| Author: | ImPhilosopher [ Wed May 13, 2015 2:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Nervous About Losing V-Card |
When you having sex then you should be like for 1st 2 min you are the leader and do you want to do with her and after 2 min she'll be leader. You can also try "music change" when ever music change you change the position or situation like you are on doggy style after the song change you start fingering her this is how you can hold a long. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Wed May 13, 2015 5:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Nervous About Losing V-Card |
The major than you can do to fix this is to "Breathe" When anxiety surfaces, the breath becomes shortened and rapid. Anxiety can only exist in this environment. It can not exist while you're taking slow, steady, and deep breaths no more than a human can exist under water without oxygen tanks. While breathing steady and deep for 5 minutes it will DROWN. Second realize that chick is more likely to be upset to your reaction to a performance problem than she is to become upset about the problem itself. If you laugh it off, she will reflect that behavior back to you. If you become apologetic, she will become angry with you. And this is true in a lot more than sexual situations. A woman is always looking toward her mans reaction to validate what she should feel. Far too often women just "don't know" what to feel because there are so many feelings happening at once. And also beware that although this is a problem you're experiencing sex does take two people. And a woman who is knowledgable of sex and relaxing the man in front of her will be able to help you get your dick up with ease. You're trying to carry to much and it will only stress you out more. I had this happen to be for 2 years on and off, especially with women I really liked until I ran into a woman who know exactly what to do when this problem arose. She knew how to relax, be patient, sooth me, encourage me to breathe, all while she rubbed my limp dick on the outside of her clit. Before I knew it she had stuck it in. I didn't even know it was in until you told me to pump away lol. Any girl you're with can help you man. Its on you to hold them to a higher standard. But the breathing in itself is enough to take care of this. And don't just start breathing when its time for sex, control that breath all day every day. Train yourself. Control it the moment you see her. You have to be ready before the moment to be ready for the moment. One love man. |
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| Author: | swiftdart [ Wed May 13, 2015 6:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Nervous About Losing V-Card |
Thanks guys. It's just hard since I am so alpha in all other aspects of life, but need the confidence to get it done where it counts. |
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