When setting dates you want to call or text once a week. The phone is for setting dates. It is okay to send flirty texts if the woman does it first but never initiate text conversations that go no where (i.e. are not moving things forward). If I'm texting a girl after a few flirty texts I'll get to the point which is to see if she is free on a specific day and a specific time. Sometimes I'll suggest something that we will do or just say I'll surprise her but ask her to dress nice but comfortable. The girl usually doesn't accept the date right away. She'll give me challenges (little shit tests) then I'll push through. Sometimes women will ignore your offer and ask you another question. You see this a lot on online dating sites. You'll ask for her number and she'll ignore your question. You have to push through her bullshit. When setting a date she might accept the offer then ask you to call and confirm the day before the date. She may also say, "Maybe. I'll let you know." Another shade of this test comes in the color, (assuming you ask her out for a date on Monday) "Sure. We can set a time later
." These are all 'maybe' dates or what I sometimes call 'Up in the Air' dates. You need to secure concrete plans with each girl. This means a time and a day with no agreement to call and confirm. If she gives you any of this bullshit you withdraw the offer. This is called "the takeaway". It's a sales strategy that works great when setting dates with women. It helps to pass these subtle tests. Sometimes they aren't tests. The woman just is keeping you around as an option. Withdrawing the offer forces her to reveal her true interest. She will either commit to the date or accept your withdrawal. Alternatively she may give you a counter offer. If she says "We'll have to do it another day," or something of the sort it is your job as a man to secure plans on the new date she gives you or present another counter offer in case you are unavailable the day of the original counter offer. Treat her counter offers and your offers the same. Don't ever accept 'Up in the Air' dates. Many women use 'Up in the Air' dates to test a man's strength. Pass the test by using the takeaway are if you are feeling really congruent and dominant call her out on her bullshit. "No you know right now if you are going to be free. Use that line on another guy." This must come from a place of dominance and not neediness. If she gives you a reasonable explanation for needing to confirm after you use the takeaway such as needing to find a babysitter first then you can ask her to call you before two days before the date (if possible given the situation) to confirm and that you will make other plans if she doesn't. It turns the tables (flips the script) and it forces her to reveal her true interest. How you handle the phone is everything when trying to set a date. Phone game is your bridge from the pickup stage into the dating stage with a woman.