This is an incredibly frustrating sticking point for me.
I will escalate with girls to the point before sexand they will say to me:
'no, I want to take it slow' 'ive had bad experiences (this b******* excuse is classic and should be in an art gallery)
I HAVE SLEPT OVER IN A GIRLS BED I MET A DAY AGO AND SPOONED ALL F*CKING NIGHT AND NOT GOT ANY WTF < I ESCALATED AS MUCH AS I COULD AND STILL
+ I was not too eager I was careful as a mofo. With various different women, I have responded to this in the only two ways I know:1. keep on escalating
Their response: no, stop, im on my period, WAIT till the next week when im off period (is she serious?!), ill feel horrible after (why are you focused on that TEMPORARY feeling and not the TEMPORARY pleasure FFS)
2. Walk away, cut them off, do not bother with them at all
Their response: greeting me every time I see them on nights out, physically touching me to get me to notice them, asking 'are you ok?' 1000 times, but if i escalate they revert back to 1. response
ITS A VICIOUS CYCLE OF NOT GETTING ANY
What I know:THEY PUT ME ON THE BENCH UNTIL SOME OTHER MORE ATTRACTIVE 'LOVER' COMES ALONG
I CANNOT CONTROL THIS AND ITS DAMN RIGHT PISSING ME OFF
There are lovers and providers.
Providers put in all the effort and have sex on the woman's terms, often in a long term relationship
Lovers just have sex with women in a short space of time (my aim dont care what you think you dont know me)
A clear solution to this problem is to be perceived as a lover.
I am trying to be perceived as a lover but they just wont F****** BUDGE!
They are so persistent with seeing me as a provider!
I am tall, I am confident with women and have no problem approaching, I do NOT get friendzoned EVER,
women find me physically attractive but I still cannot crack them. WHY
HOW DO I BE SEEN AS A LOVER AND NOT A PROVIDER.
BECAUSE THIS IS SOMETHING I CANNOT CONTROL AND IS PREVENTING ME FROM LIVING HOW I WANT TO LIVE
YOU CAN DO EVERYTHING RIGHT BUT IF SHE SEES YOU AS A PROVIDER AND NOT A LOVER
YOU WILL ALWAYS GET A PROVIDER RESULT
HOW CAN I GET WOMEN TO SEE ME AS A LOVER?
NOTE* - a lot of these women that want me to 'WAIT LONGER' also assume I have slept with 100s of girls and that I am sleeping with 4 or 5 women
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HOW CAN THEY THINK I AM A LOVER
AND THEN TRY AND GET ME TO BE A PROVIDER AT ANY COST?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!
GRRRRRRRRRRR