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| Author: | Dikfiec [ Thu Nov 13, 2014 8:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | frustrating challenges |
I have a couple of sticking points,please help if you can. I frequently do day game sarging, it would be awesome if the answers would be from that context -I use mystery method to game,but after I run attraction and compliance test successfully I get stuck at qualification, they fail to qualify themselves to me. I usually take that as an IOD so I use a FD and follow it up with DHV, but still they fail to qualify. I end up going to comfort without them qualifying themselves to me wat should I do? - when am in comfort phase and run let say the cube they say I make them think to much and end up not answering why does this happen? - most of the times I end up gaming girls that are older than me and it ends up to be a dealbreaker even though I know how to handle the shit test pretty well. |
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| Author: | andrewbalderree [ Fri Nov 14, 2014 2:37 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: frustrating challenges |
Try not getting so caught up in the process. It sounds like you've got all the technique stuff memorized. You know the sequence things are supposed to move in and what you should be doing at that phase. That can all be very useful. But all of these tools for building attraction are only there to support you in expressing the best version of yourself... naturally. I used to get so caught up on what phase I was in and what to do next that I missed what was going on right in front of me. When people get caught up on trying to make something go a certain way, they tend to dismiss anything outside of what they are looking to accomplish. This doesn't work well with building attraction or relationships. I might be talking out of my ass but I think that girls for the most part only really care that you can make them feel comfortable, understood, and that you can communicate sexually. Everyone, regardless of sex, wants to be understood, wants to feel positive emotions, and wants sexual escalation to be a smooth natural transition. learn to build strong rapport for comfort (easy if you're genuinely interested in them as a person) , try to get to know who they are to make them feel understood (because that will tell you so much more than the cube) As for the sexual communication part, sexual communication as I'm sure you know isn't about what you say so much as it's about how you say it. 3 modes of communication. Words, tone, and body language. the majority of what is communicated is through the second two. So you just need to communicate sexual interest with your tone of voice and your body language/physical contact. All in a gradual climb. It's like turning up a dial. I don't know if any of this is what you're looking for, but one of the biggest shifts in my results happened when I dropped the routines and just got to know the girl. Often I'd find out that she's not MY type. The screening process should go both ways. |
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| Author: | Dikfiec [ Fri Nov 14, 2014 9:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: frustrating challenges |
andrew I think you are right, and somehow I feel it will be helpful. I'll try to be in the moment. somehow I feel you relate because you've had the same sticking points. but you've said screening goes both ways, do you mean you skip this phase or how do you go about it? |
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| Author: | andrewbalderree [ Sat Nov 15, 2014 1:15 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: frustrating challenges |
I'm glad I could be of service man! As far the the whole screening thing going both ways, I was just commenting on how people in the community tend to place all the importance on passing her tests. I think the easiest way to pass her tests is to simply not play ball. If you think that in order for someone to be attracted to you that you need to pass all their tests and jump through hoops, then you'll start to act like a kid jumping around for attention. Screening is just seeing if that person is right for you. so when she is screening you, she is looking for qualities that she finds attractive. Generally confidence, being self assured, emotionally strong, etc. Placing too much importance on completing her check list will distract you from being yourself. And really what's more confident than a man who is solid in what he stands for and knows what he wants. If she's not into you when you're being genuine, then it's doomed from the start. Feel free to message me if you have any questions man I'm here to share. Good luck brotha! |
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| Author: | Dikfiec [ Sat Nov 15, 2014 8:31 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: frustrating challenges |
thanks man. I'll do that. |
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