Lately, I've realized that I don't have a lot of female friends. I say friends because I'm not trying to hit on them. It's nice to have a social circle that consists of HBs, and even they could lead me to doors that are waiting to be opened; but due to exams, midterms, and other things that'll make a college student's head spin, Gaming isn't my top priority at the moment.
So my SP is that I don't know how to stay in touch with a female friend after contacting and meeting her. The spark from our experience together seems to glow radiantly at first, but then starts to flicker and die as time passes on.
Here's an example of what happened to me concerning making and keeping female friends:
Last month, I unexpectedly ran into a childhood friend. It's been slightly over a decade since we've last seen each other, and we just kept talking about what we've been up to, what our majors are, etc. She tells me that she has a boyfriend and all that cool stuff, and I just nod and agree.
I tell her that we should meet up some time next week since she's asking A LOT of questions and i have class in a few minutes, and we exchange numbers on cue. Before our meet, I text her little things, like "what's up?", and she'd respond within a few lines of her own. Sometimes, she'd give me 2:1. Things are still going great.
On the day of the meet, we go out for babo tea. I pay for our drinks since it was my treat to her, and just like when we first met, we talked about things from out past, like how one of our school teachers from grade school got arrested. Nothing went wrong in our conversation - no awkward silences, forceful laughs, or anything bad. Things just went off perfectly and naturally.
Eventually, we had to split ways. She mentions to me how she has an apartment on campus and tells me where it is. She even suggested that I visit some other day, and I said that I'd think about it.
TODAY, things weren't the way it used to be. All of a sudden, she doesn't seem so interested anymore. I texted her "what's up?" and it took her a week to answer, which is strange to me. I wasn't hitting on her in any way when we met up for babo tea, but when friends treat me like this, I tend to feel like I was just used as a one-timer.
This is just a typical pattern for me now. It varies slightly with different girls and different venues, but the end results are nonetheless the same: I somehow lose in touch with a girl after a magical experience. How can I break from this cycle if I'm only trying to make friends?
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Like I said before: I want to break this cycle, NOT just sit back as it comes around full circle.