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| Author: | Dzifa [ Mon Oct 20, 2014 3:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I do everything correct but can't get the date |
Dear PUA players, This morning a girl I know of volleyball texted to me while we haven't talked for a year. She came up with a camp we did one year ago. Blablabla, so I think she is interested, because why would you otherwise do that?! So on a certain moment I ask her if she wants do do something fun, and talk a bit. She says great, but when I begin to talk about monday or saterday she says cool, but doesn't go deeper about that topic. I have had this multitiple times, so it is one of my sticking points I think. The problem is that I can't see her at volleyball because we have diffrent times we have to go to training. That's why I can't make that much real contact. Any advice? Thanks for thinking with me, Dzifa |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Mon Oct 20, 2014 3:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I do everything correct but can't get the date |
Start combining the date request with an actual date and time suggestion... IE..... You:How about we do something fun this week. How's Thursday night for you? Her: Thursday won't work I have XX on that night You: No problem, what day works best for you, then? Don't change topic until you've figured it out... Or if she says "I'll have to get back to you on that" - then she's either: 1) Really busy and needs to check her schedule, in which case you should wait a day or two and follow up 2) Not really interested afterall... |
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| Author: | TheFury [ Tue Oct 21, 2014 4:33 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I do everything correct but can't get the date |
Basically what charles said .. when you propose hanging out even if its as simple as "We should get together sometime" and she responds positively: fire off date, time, and place all at once. e.g. "Cool, how about tuesday at 8pm at XYZ?" |
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| Author: | _Lothario_ [ Wed Oct 22, 2014 5:21 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I do everything correct but can't get the date |
You have to be direct and concise about what it is you really want. "Monday or Saturday?" Through text gives an easy dodge for the girl. Why not have these conversations and give a deadline for when to confirm the plan if she tries to dodge commitment? It saves you from getting flaked and puts you in control of your time, instead of leaving time windows open that are not confirmed by the target. Another alternative is to plan ahead and invite. If there is an event or activity you are involved with, with or without your date, her presence does not decide the plan. Decide. Decide the time and place of your interaction and get all your logistics handled ahead of time. Figure out, during that conversation, what time you will pick her up, or where and when you will meet. Once that is settled, there is no reason to reconfirm. Reconfirmation of plans you have already made shows your insecurity with the situation. Your options for dates should be plentiful, as well as the variety of women you are dating while single. Hot girls have many numbers of many men who have displayed interest. You should too if you want to date on their level. |
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| Author: | oceanx [ Wed Oct 22, 2014 7:27 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I do everything correct but can't get the date |
Find out her schedule for the next X days. Schedule a date around that. |
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| Author: | _Lothario_ [ Wed Oct 22, 2014 4:51 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I do everything correct but can't get the date |
Quote: Find out her schedule for the next X days. Schedule a date around that.
Schedule a date around YOUR SCHEDULE, and GFTOW that are free when you are.
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| Author: | Dzifa [ Thu Oct 23, 2014 12:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I do everything correct but can't get the date |
Thanks guys! This is useful, I will use it next time. Dzifa |
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| Author: | Gunfighter28 [ Sun Oct 26, 2014 11:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I do everything correct but can't get the date |
Make definite plans 2 or 3 days into the future and get off the phone pick a date that works for you, and suggest that to her if it doesn't work for her withdraw the offer by saying ok we'll schedule it for another time, let me know when you're free to get together. Then leave it, and wait for her to contact you. You MUST be congruent with your last statement. I've had ppl on previous threads say this isn't a good approach, but simple fact is that it is an extremely effective approach. Women develop their feelings slowly over time and need time and space to miss you, wonder about you talk to her gf's about you, and where they stand with you. Science has proven women are more attracted to men who's feelings are unclear. By withdrawing your offer you're showing willingness to walk away, and that creates attraction because you view yourself as a catch. You've chased the girl she doesn't see you as a challenge, but you in a situation where you withdraw the offer then don't continue to contact her that will leave her wondering about you and once she has the realization that if she doesn't reach out to you she'll never see you again she'll most likely reach out to you. Read up on Corey Wayne's material, and if you have any doubt about what I just said I can honestly say I've field tested these methods. I'm in the midst of re attracting a girl that got distant due to my over pursuit I'm currently using these methods, and having great success. |
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