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Author:  gingerguy [ Sat May 24, 2014 6:56 am ]
Post subject:  Approach Anxiety with direct day game
See title. Any idea how to conquer it? I don't run into this problem with night game, believe it or not.
Author:  ConfidenceMatters [ Sun May 25, 2014 4:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach Anxiety with direct day game
You're probably introverted. I am too.

There are a few things you can do:

  • Practice, practice, practice! When I did a lot of political work I got really good at making cold calls and approaches. You get less scared and you learn what works first hand.

    It helps to write down a script for just every day plain interaction before you go out to socialize. It'll be really simple like: "Hey, how's it going? I'm _______."

    Think about what makes you scared to be in front of others? It's usually that you're afraid of what they're going to think of you. You're afraid they're going to see what you're insecure about, whether you're fat, dumb, and/or ugly. This is why insecurities are so powerful and why therapy is a thriving industry. Be proud of yourself. Maximize your talents and minimize your flaws.
Author:  dtrak [ Mon Jun 02, 2014 9:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach Anxiety with direct day game
The only way to overcome approach anxiety during the day is to let go of "trying to get the girl"
Which means you are coming from a frame of mind of "Trying to improve yourself"
So when you open a girl during the day just tell yourself "I dont care if i get rejected, i will go in and see what i can do"
Once you have that mind set down, approach everything and learn from your mistakes.
When i do daygame i like to go indirect at first, as if we met by mistake. Then i go DIRECT. Because girls have a radar for sleezy pick up guys. So just be natural and smart about your approach, make sure she feels comfortable. Make it seem as if you guys meeting was coincidence, you dont want them to think you do that with every girl. So practice being subtle during the day and then go direct soon after the opener. This will seem alot more natural and help with your approach anxiety. Approach anxiety is natural, and it will be there on your first few opens most of the time, so just tell yourself "I will do what i can, rejection doesnt matter, just my action" and go in ! this will allow you to learn more because you are approaching more. As long as you are approaching and using your head then that is all you need. Stop looking for a pick up technique and start understanding more what women want and feel comfortable with.

Build your innergame and become a boss at life and seduction today ! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nzF-V5kGEiM
Author:  n2thevoid [ Wed Jun 18, 2014 5:19 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach Anxiety with direct day game
Focus less on the outcome with the girl, and more on the objective of simply opening. You open, you feel good irrespective of the result as you've done your task.
Author:  Black Phantom [ Thu Jun 26, 2014 8:04 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Approach Anxiety with direct day game
There was so much written on AA already. I have a topic that I write regularly under confidence
and beliefs section, where I wrote about AA too.

get-confidence-with-women-hangout-vt179793.html

Every guys has fear over approaching women, just that for some it's mild fear and
for some it's like being shot with a 12-gauge.

AA is happening subconsciously, and you can't get rid of by conscious reasoning.

So "Just do it" and "Just go for it" and "You've got nothing to be afraid of" won't work.

I mean, I wrote about it so much already, just check out the topic I gave above
and you'll get it.
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