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Alright for whatever reason the women in my life start talking to me a lot and then seem to think im needy when I talk as much as they do. Heres an example and one i could use help on now. so I started talking to this girl on facebook that I went to school with years ago. We were joking around a lot and it wasnt hard to get her to agree to go out with me. The date went great and we decided we'd do it again. So a week later we did it again, this time she brought her 2 year old son to meet me as well. This one went amazing as well. We both have busy schedules so finding time to go out again was proving difficult but we still spoke on the phone every day. After a couple weeks of not being able to see each other i asked her out again and she told me she wasnt interested in dating, she just wanted to hangout. I told her whatever made her comfortable and we got lunch a few times. Then all of a sudden she went cold. Just stopped replying to my messages and phone calls all together. Im assuming she thought I was too needy. Being honest I had just gotten out of a relationship, but i really like this girl. I know it might be too late but any ideas on how I could reverse this situation? She's still single. For whatever reason she's just not talking to me.
Mate,based on your post, I think you are a very nice and easy-going person and genuine interested in people. Unfortunately women don't perceive this this way.
I like to use the following metaphor to show the essence of your story
: girls like chocolocate. Everytime they want to eat chocolate, they get chocolate. This gives a short-term satisfaction. But after a while, when they want chocolate, there is chocolate availabe, it's get boring. Because they don't need to spend effort to get chocolate, it becomes too easy to get access to chocolate. When they want chocolate, and there is no chocolate available at the moment, they will feel short-term dissatisfaction. But the next time they see chocolate, they will be even more excited. Stupid? Maybe, but this is how a female brain works.In a nutshell, you were too available for the girl. You were always there to meet them, to entertain there. For the girl, there is absolutely no fear of losing, therefore you are not interesting to them.
My advice: be scarce, let them put effort to meet you
