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| Author: | pittinger [ Wed Aug 21, 2013 7:16 am ] |
| Post subject: | always run out of things to say.. |
hey i always have the same problem... i can do the smalltalk things, but then RUN OUT OF THINGS TO SAY, WITH EVERYONE, not just girls.... I just feel so bad being in a group of 5 people and being the only one who just listeneds and doesnt have to say about something! and the fact that im not interacting with other people, makes me beta and i dont get any social proof... its really annoying. im so envious at some people who can talk for hours to some businessman about economy even tho they don`t have a clue about it..i wanna be one of them.. there must be more techniques around..just found the open questions, statements... I struggle when a group is talking about something i dont really have a clue about (lets say for example a movie i dont know it), how can i put my 2 cents into that anyway or keep talking. I`m absolutely not shy, the only thing that stops me to talk to other girls is that i know after 5mins i struggle to find something to talk... if there is something i know a lot about like movies and football...i could talk for hours...but which girl cares about football, not that many |
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| Author: | INURGRL92 [ Wed Aug 21, 2013 8:08 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: always run out of things to say.. |
Try the fish-hook method. It will help you develop your "million dollar mouthpeice", which a tool you will need in your future as a PUA. Take different things the girl your talking to says ań point out the key word in it. Put that key word on an imaginary fish hook In front of you and when conversation starts to die, take a word from the fishhooks and run with it. Ex: I'm going to school to become a Physical therapist. Take the words "school" and "Physical Therapist" A:Where are you going to school? B: ill be attending VA Tech in the fall. A: what made you choose VA Tech? B: it's close to home and I enjoy the SPAM and being surround by good people. It's a rough example but you should get the idea. Just develop it and Over time it will become second nature and you will be able to carry a conversation for a month of Sundays. |
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| Author: | GamesSN [ Sat Aug 24, 2013 4:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: always run out of things to say.. |
Take note of the small talk. Get to know personal things such as her name, what country or county she's from, where she studied or what her job is. Remember this and you can always refer back to it and start up new conversations based on old material. If you know something about her job/college/area you can always talk about that if a specific topic goes stale. Also, try not to stay on any one topic for too long! Example: Her(Previously): My name is Sara, i'm from Spain and i'm 28. *Current topic on spaceships(Example) has run it's course* You: So, you said you were from Spain? What made you come to >Country you're in<? Her: Blah, blah, blah. You: Wow, that's cool. What do you think of >Country<? Her: Blah, blah. You: So you don't like the people? *Grin* Eventually the topic runs dry so... You: 28, wow, that's old for a woman! Her: I can't believe you just said that. You: I'm just teasing *kino* Keep note of everything she says. It's important to remember what she says so you can bring it up again later into the conversation if you need to. Once you gain enough rapport or it feels like it's gone on too long don't be afraid to leave! If you have rapport and she's enjoying your company n-close and say you have to go. If you want to n-close here's a line: "You're very interesting! I want to get to know you a bit more. Put your number in my phone." Have your phone out and give it to her as you're saying this. Just keep changing the conversation. If it begins to get stale change it! It keeps things interesting and keeps the conversation flowing. Biggest tip would be to know what you want out of it. If you approach a woman know what it's going to be about: Is it for her number? Is it social proof? Is it pre-game? Is it to fuck her in a back alley? Know exactly how you're going to end it when you enter the conversation!! |
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| Author: | marc1818 [ Sat Aug 24, 2013 5:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: always run out of things to say.. |
Had the same issues a few months ago, but each time i tried to remember the conversation especially the topics. Then when i was home, i opened up a word document and associated different words with the topics i remembered. Somehow your brain starts to make associations a lot faster. Also like to take one subject and write a story about it which i can use in conversations. Then try to make the story better and funnier for 7 days. |
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| Author: | TheFury [ Wed Aug 28, 2013 4:44 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: always run out of things to say.. |
Ok, this is a really complicated topic that takes time to learn. Being good at conversation is a highly underrated and neglected skill in most PUA which focuses on canned routines and examples that can only take you so far. If you are on a date etc. or at a party, you may be interacting for an hour or two at least. Memorizing techniques/etc. can get you through 15-20 minutes but after that, you have to actually know how to have conversation. Some keys (out of MANY) to being successful in conversation are (1) Have things you can talk about ... be an interesting person, get a hobby, of if you have some, talk about them (2) Ask open ended versus yes/no questions (3) HAVE OPINIONS , don't be scared, if you have an opinion and it turns out to be idiotic or uninformed or if you are afraid of that, just preface your opinion with : "I haven't thought too much about this, but..." (4) Change the topic when you sense you are running out of things to say or that the conversation is getting boring There can be entire books written about how to be successful in conversation, but these are some key points that will help you. Also, look into online game. with online game it is hard to avoid one on one dates where you need to have a lot of conversation .. this is great practice and will get you REALLY good at talking to women for as long as you need to seduce them. |
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