| PUA Forum https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/ |
|
| How to gauge this scenario after a day 2? https://pick-up-artist-forum.com/viewtopic.php?f=56&t=165537 |
Page 1 of 1 |
| Author: | barris9 [ Wed Jul 10, 2013 9:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | How to gauge this scenario after a day 2? |
Writing here as i'm inexperienced with these scenarios and want a bit of help to set me on the straight and narrow... Met this girl when i was out, got with her slept with her etc. including next morning/afternoon. Anyway set up a day 2 where thing were quite positive, had a good 2 hour or so date in a nice bar on the waterfront, went back to hers, watched some tv with her friend who i get on with quite well too and got to it again eventually. The bit i am having trouble with here is finding what she wants. I have tried a couple of times with texting and she has been fairly receptive in her texts and i get a few snapchats now and again (generic ones i should add). But for example one of her friends from home is up at the mo, she has only just back to a city she lived in a couple of years ago so spending time with old friends, weather is uncharacteristically nice. Am i answering my own question here? But as i say i have asked if she wants to do anything before i go somewhere else for a few days and she just says she's busy with the above stuff really which is fair enough and all... As she is quite busy i've had some long waits to some text replies, can be instant or in one case it was like 2 days which she did say she was sorry for. It's not like she's going out on the piss clubbing or to bars sorta thing really. Obviously looking into this with a bit of detail but wanted to get the details out to see what you guys thought? I did quite like her (still do, think she is really nice), but i'm starting to get bored of waiting here so what would you say is the situation i have myself in and what's the best way to deal with it? Should add what i'm looking for. I'm looking for something a bit longer term wise now, though obviously want to have a few dates before i really know what i'm doing, but that's the ultimate aim if i continue to get on with her. |
|
| Author: | minsok [ Sat Jul 13, 2013 1:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to gauge this scenario after a day 2? |
Am I understanding this right, you're mostly texting just to make small talk? I don't think that's something you should do if you're not in a relationship. Talking about day to day minutiae isn't very stimulating. If she's putting off your texts for 2 days, that's a bad sign. No one's so busy that they can shoot you a text on a lunch break or before bed and if she forgot you texted her for 2 days, that's not a great sign either. Maybe text her a couple times while you're out of town, but when you come back you need to focus on seeing her in person again. If she won't make plans with you, is flaky, that's probably a bad sign and one of my sticking points. |
|
| Author: | barris9 [ Sun Jul 14, 2013 11:13 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to gauge this scenario after a day 2? |
Quote: Am I understanding this right, you're mostly texting just to make small talk? I don't think that's something you should do if you're not in a relationship. Talking about day to day minutiae isn't very stimulating. If she's putting off your texts for 2 days, that's a bad sign. No one's so busy that they can shoot you a text on a lunch break or before bed and if she forgot you texted her for 2 days, that's not a great sign either. Maybe text her a couple times while you're out of town, but when you come back you need to focus on seeing her in person again. If she won't make plans with you, is flaky, that's probably a bad sign and one of my sticking points.
Well, i tried to text her yesterday with no response, thinking tomorrow if no reply just gonna say take or leave it sort of thing. How's the best way to approach that sort of comment? Like i really want to see her but am not taking it any further if she is going to not bother responding or arrange something from my next/final attempt at making something from this.
|
|
| Author: | minsok [ Sun Jul 14, 2013 9:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to gauge this scenario after a day 2? |
It's not that you're choosing not to pursue her, if she's not responding, that's as clear as a girl will be that she's not interested. How many texts in a row has she ignored? I give a girl 2-3 before I delete her number. After 2 ignored texts I usually just send out a parting shot about how it was nice spending time with her and maybe an inside joke. I would much rather a girl tell me she met someone else or we don't have chemistry, but that rarely happens. |
|
| Author: | odyn [ Sun Jul 14, 2013 9:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to gauge this scenario after a day 2? |
Solid advice...if she isn't hitting you back then she is not interested. Stop texting right now and just do exactly what was mentioned about the parting shot. GL |
|
| Author: | barris9 [ Mon Jul 15, 2013 11:38 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How to gauge this scenario after a day 2? |
Yeah cheers guys i've come to the same general conclusion here really. It was only one that was ignored entirely it seems, now it's been over 48 hours i'll send something later, just being straight up what i felt/want from this, and if no reply or whatever then we obviously don't share the same intentions. Girls can be strange, she did seem very positive when i saw her last, so i would love to know what happened, but alas as one of you said sadly i will probably never know and probably not hear from her again realistically, though will probably bump into her at some point in the future as we go to the same sort of places. I'm not too fussed, i did like her, she's almost lost her chance. It'll be funny if i got a reply after writing this, but realistically don't expect it as her interest seems to have waned a lot. But yeah thanks for the help, i think i'll be way more direct in the future, make sure i learn from this, and ensure i set up a date in person as that'll make it a lot easier to gauge interest. Make sure i learn from these experiences! |
|
| Page 1 of 1 | All times are UTC |
| Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group http://www.phpbb.com/ |
|