So there has definitely been a recurring pattern.
First off, let me explain that I am living proof of the "All the girls I'm ever into, it never works out. The ones I just want to bang, they love me."
Here are links to the two most recent threads that culminate into instances of my abysmal defect:
1) second-date-with-hb10-vt164474.html
2) great-1st-date-she-wanted-to-see-me-aga ... 58471.html
With that said, let me begin:
It's not very hard for me at all to find women that are willing to sleep with me. I'm not an elite PUA or anything, I think some types of women are just attracted to me.
But the issue here is two-fold:
A) When I find someone I want to pursue, that is usually because of not just a physical attraction but (as AFC this might sound) sometimes I might just feel a better natural connection with someone and I tend to pursue those women hoping to preserve that feeling of elation (I guess that's what it can be described as) that this chick has what I'm looking for and we're attracted to each other. My issue/question here is, is it reasonable to pursue this type of woman, or is this just something I should get over?
B) Then, when we hit it off (and we usually do) everything honestly couldn't be any better. I basically don't really treat her any different than any other chick, but I will generally slip in some sincere thoughts here and there, and make her feel wanted. The dates are always great, we keep in touch, tell each other we miss each other. THEN, the games start playing. They start missing calls, no texts, try to make you jealous, all that stuff. I don't know how to get past this part because I don't understand what the point of it is. Everything has been so great, why would she want to start causing problems?
I've tried everything. Telling them "oh yea it's cool don't worry" to being a prick and dumping her or just giving them more space and time OR just wait it out until you see her next (if ever).
Most of the things that bother me if I can bring it up in the first or second date without sounding like a bitch I do. But I don't know how to address these things with her I guess when they happen.
Help!
