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| Author: | stu_Notts [ Sat Jul 06, 2013 2:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Fear of escalation |
I seem to be getting into this situation a lot. I just sit there in the smoking area. Im not focussing an anyone in particular Im just enjoying the night. I sit with my learnt AMOG sitting stance which is become natural now. A girl always comes up asks if she can sit down and join me. We just bond. She gazes into my eyes. I act confidently but inside Im screaming, this has only started happening recently since I stopped obsessing on opening every set and burning myself out. We chat for about 20-30 minutes. But I never seem to want to ask her to go to the bar, go for a dance, go back inside nothing. They will even make it evident they want me to join them. They say "Im going back inside", they then wait. Im like "Ok was nice to meet you, if you see me later you can get me a drink". But I seem to have some mental block stopping me from doing anything else. But once they leave I metaphorically kick myself in the ass as I realise what just happened. I think it may be because Ive only started getting these responses from women so Im way out of my comfort zone again. Is it like AA, do I just have to force myself to do it until it becomes natural. |
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| Author: | stu_Notts [ Sat Jul 06, 2013 3:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Fear of escalation |
AT the start I just thought they were being friendly as they are normally 9 or 10's. No Im not bragging wither. Last night it happened with a Sweedish 10. Enough said. But I have just picked up "The Mystery Method" again, and read the following line. "If you don't take time to attract a woman first, you wont give her a reason to even have a conversation with you". So I must be giving off some attractive vibe. I just need to realise it. Because I havnt opened the set and done an approach, it just happens naturally. I don't have a clue as to whats happening. |
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| Author: | mixar [ Sat Jul 13, 2013 11:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Fear of escalation |
Seeing the opportunity is as important as responding to it. Try writing up a field report, then go back over it and write in how you would have liked the interaction to go. This will help you see things from a 3rd person perspective and also train your brain to know what to do next time. In the end no one can hold your hand through this learning curve. We all need to do this ourselves. Good luck mate Mixar |
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| Author: | Subzero8 [ Sun Jul 14, 2013 7:13 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Fear of escalation |
Quote: AT the start I just thought they were being friendly as they are normally 9 or 10's. No Im not bragging wither. Last night it happened with a Sweedish 10. Enough said.
Rather than finding out what's attracting them maybe you should seize the opportunity and escalate ..it could be useful to know why they are attracted but even more important to do what you need to do when it happens ..just a thought
But I have just picked up "The Mystery Method" again, and read the following line. "If you don't take time to attract a woman first, you wont give her a reason to even have a conversation with you". So I must be giving off some attractive vibe. I just need to realise it. Because I havnt opened the set and done an approach, it just happens naturally. I don't have a clue as to whats happening. |
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