Im not shure whether this Thread is in the right place, plz correct me if its not
Im not going to clubs regulary,
but when i do i often get into a specific situation i really dont know to handle (im still a wanna-be-PUA btw):
I often dont try to game a hole evening, especially when i went to club only to dance or curing a bad mood or something; but when i had been on dance floor a long time while only tangential dancing with women i dont show real interest in, it often happens that a female member of a set seems talking to the others in a amused way, pointing at me and then approaching me with something short like "you are/seem to be the cutest/coolest guy here" (happened 3 to 5 times already).
This is the point i cant interpret: actually i dont know whether she wants to make fun of me or it should be a kind of opener or something. I have to admit that im not the biggest guy and i also have a younger appearance than i really am (20). When i where at school i made the experience that the behavior of girls in my direction often was affected by this attitude in a similar, but negative way. So i never know whether its a IOI, a shit-test or just something mean when it occurs in club now
.Another problem: also if im having a vague idea how to react, i often cant realize it because its to loud to talk without shouting in her ear and i dont have the strongest vocal folds^^
Shure ivegot some ideas but i wanna discuss them first before trying them out next time:
First:
*Intend to dont understand her because of the music (sometimes its not even fooling her xD) and then try to separate her and lead her to some less noisy place.
*OR: Cocky smile, maybe a short dance with her, wait for the right moment to approach her on the bar.
Second:
*Just ignore her comment and try to start a conversation over something off topic.
*Kind of neg her about her strange approach (something like: "You really tend to prejudge a guys attitude, do you?")
*Ask her what exactly she meant (Not word by word, maybe in arrogant-ironic way like "How can you already now that im the coolest guy here
")How you would read this kind of approach?
What do you think about the possible reactions i want to try out?
Are there any other reactions you would suggest?
When i get into another situation like this, i will ofc test something and post a field report (if there remains something to discuss about).