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| Author: | ptown123 [ Sun Mar 31, 2013 9:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | The Approach is killing me |
ive read and seen various pua material. ive been looking into body language and all of this is very interesting. i see girls preening and smiling and looking at me few times walking to and from work. things have gotten better with inner game but could improve. i walk with my head held higher and look into peoples eyes more often than before. thats how i noticed the girls. i like some of the material and do write them down for later usage but always fail to do it. i see them and tell myself im gonna do it, but when they are in contact distance, nothing happens. i just walk right by. i cant even say hi at times. i know its in my own head thats holding me back. the 3 second rule. any info needed just ask and would like any help possible. i just need to get past this. |
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| Author: | CuseFan44 [ Sun Mar 31, 2013 10:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Approach is killing me |
Go somewhere, preferably out of town, with a wing and make it your goal to do ten approaches in an hour. That means an approach every six minutes. You're not trying to number close, kiss close, or anything else. Simply trying to open and keep the conversation going for three minutes, then leave. I used this method when I was first getting back adjusted to single life after an 8 year LTR ended, and realized I needed to relax. I've since used this method with friends who struggled with AA, and it always helps them by the next night (or even later that night if we go to a different place) |
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| Author: | PUA Kenny [ Sun Mar 31, 2013 10:38 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Approach is killing me |
@Ptown- Some reframing will help. You need to reframe the whole thing when it comes to the women you're thinking to approach. And stop being outcome dependent. If you approach girls or want to open the HB's who are coming towards you, then you need to stop viewing them as a challenge or someone in whom you're trying to get something. And stop viewing women as hot and out of your league. Picture the hottest girl being an ugly duckling! You wouldn't have a prob chatting up an ugly girl would you? For further encouragement on chatting up strangers, feel free to check out my in-field videos of me picking up and chatting to random strangers. The video below is of a random clod approach I did last week to pick up a couple actually, we met up and had a 3 some; meaning, me fucking his soon-to-be wife. Saying all this to say, stop viewing women as a challenge and hurdle! [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gUxQmM1h_3I[/youtube] |
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| Author: | officialpoypoy [ Tue Apr 09, 2013 11:24 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: The Approach is killing me |
i used to be like this too, I still do at the start where i still need to warm up. basicly what i learned is to get yourself in the right state. -smile -clap - jump MOTION creates EMOTION also positive affirmations work but ur mind WANTS PROOF that the positive affirmations are real. so you have to create proof and the more proof you create the more sure you are the affirmations are facts about you instead of future compliments. then once u get more happy and free from outcome and get in that state u can move up to random high 5s and appoach from there. dont worry, the first approach usually sucks for most people EVEN instructors and teachers because they know they have to build momentum up first. what makes them good is that they can take action faster. |
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