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Author:  Hunter9 [ Sun Feb 24, 2013 4:20 am ]
Post subject:  Should I just give up? Need help! I'm fucked. Replies valued
Ok guys my sticking point is my entire approach to girls. I've spent the past hour of my night out buying alcohol for me, a pal and a girl who he was flirting and kissing with and both me and my pal ended up going home alone. We were out and I was the guy who sits in the corner alone. It seems I'm my own worst enemy, I'm an average-ish looking guy and I feel like a lost cause. I'm 18 from UK and going to university soon (possibly a few mile away) I keep tellin myself the reason I'm not with any girls is that I "don't see the point, I may be leaving soon" or "I'm not interested, I'm happy". I'm sick of excuses, I only seem to get interest from girls when they are looking. For an average guy they can't lose with. I seem to go in and out of this community and learn things but haven't got a clue how to apply them. I make excuses to why I don't need girls and even if I wasn't I don't have the confidence to go and talk to a random 7/8 or above and pull with her, I have a monotone drony voice that I'm positive will bore them anyway. Help me before I die under this lonely rock I have crawled under? Any responses are valued, no matter how relevant. Thanks guys
Author:  budfox15 [ Sun Feb 24, 2013 2:58 pm ]
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I was in your place at a time, we all were.. My solution was I gave myself a make-over (no homo) just got some new outfits, new haircut and hit the clubs. They key here was that I thought myself as a different person, a role that I am playing as an actor and so if I get shot-down or rejected it doesn't phase me because it isnt me!
Arguably this isn't that healthy for your inner game as you aren't being yourself but for me I gained enough confidence that I was soon able to be myself :). Just remember, fk them, who cares if a girl rejects you, its not you who;s getting rejected its the persona you're playing..

Tip: maybe play some old hardcore music before going out to get you in the mood like Thunderstruck - ACDC.

And possibly bring your cheat sheet (if you dont have make one) with you so you can;t make any excuses
Author:  Max's [ Sun Feb 24, 2013 9:55 pm ]
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My tip is.
Approach Approach Approach Approach Approach Approach Approach Approach Approach Approach.

Get crash and burned alot til you don't feel the pain anymore.

3 second rule (do NOT think about what opener you should use on her - JUST APPROACH HER THAT'S IT).
While you are talking, remember it does not matter what you say, the only thing that matters is how you say it (playfully).

While she's talking, DO NOT meanwhile think about what you should say next.
Instead - listen to her! Everything she's saying is a clue of what your next topic should be about.
For example, she's talking about her family, then she mention a dog (BAM you have a topic), after that, you should say something that envolves a dog, then ask her a question or opinion about dogs - while she's answering (LISTEN) and pick up a clue of what you should say next (new topic or new questions about dogs)
etc.

That's my solution for now, for the typical problem of "what should i talk about?"-dilemma.

Oh yeah, my last tip.
Don't act more happy than you are - it will just be unnatural.

Hope it helped,
Good luck.
Author:  Hunter9 [ Sat Mar 09, 2013 9:11 pm ]
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Hey guys,
First of all, thanks Budfox. I study acting and love sone motivational old School rock (especially AC/ DC haha) so that sound like a perfect idea to get me in a the mood.

Secondly, Max. Those tips sound spot on for me. If never really properly approached a girl so I still don't know what to do but those tips sound like a good start haha.

Thanks so much guys, PM me if yous aren't busy, I'd love to be able to keep in contact with youse.
Thanks again!
-hunter9
Author:  Havoc2012 [ Sat Mar 23, 2013 10:16 pm ]
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Hey Hunter, I think very few people don't experience what you are to varying degrees at some point of their life. I'm 19 and go to uni in the UK as well (guess I'm the year above you). And when I left high school (you guys call it sixth form I believe) I was still a virgin, mediocre with girls, and full of insecurities. The summer I graduated my mate introduced me to PUA, Mystery and so on. We went on a eurotrip together and tried this stuff out where I learned some great tips on this.

My advice is to use the remaining time at sixth form or whatever to simply approach, try shit out, and remind yourself this is only training for when the real fun starts at uni.

What I would also really strongly recommend is to set very small objectives for when you go out. Don't say I'm out to get laid, or make out with a girl. Tell yourself you are going to follow the 3 second rule in an almost dogmatic way. If you feel you are doing that well, your confidence will shoot up, and then you can say "I will approach at least 10 girls" then you can just go live and see where the night takes you. The feeling of satisfaction at having actually done that objective will do wonders for your confidence, speaking out of experience.
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