PUA Forum :: Losing interest

It's really hard to say because you haven't said what you were actually doing when this happened, or more importantly, what you had been doing in the minutes leading up to this.

That being said. I can only go off generalities.

Girls won't leave unless they want to or have to. In a social venue scene, it's rarely bc they have to. So yes, you are mucking this up somewhere. But it may or may NOT be what you are doing directly before this. Sure it could be the current conversation, but likely it is not. Think for a second....if the girl were attracted and having fun, even if the conversation lulls or something, no big deal, she'll even pick it up again (huge IOI right?).

But girls don't want to be blatently rude...most of us don't. So they'll flatter you and stick around a bit, either out of courtesy or hoping it'll get better, but most likely because they legit don't want to be rude.

Simply put....one of two things happened.

1) You did not do enough attraction.
2) The girls have not been qualified

The second one is rough, because they won't qualify themselves unless there's some interest or attraction, but lacking either one of these will surely lead to the girl running away. If you fail to do either of these sufficiently, then you've effectively accomplished the same thing...you're just another guy chatting them up (yeah maybe with some high energy or whatever, but not proper gaming).

You say that you were drunk and that your friend had been in a fight. I'm picturing you guys having a really high energy. But a lot of guys use getting drunk as a crutch to be highly energetic, which although is way better than not talking, it is what a lot of guys do. So in a venue where the pickings are slim, you're a sure bet, but in a venue with a lot of high energy guys, you have compromised your ability to evaluate the situation.

You're a smart guy it would seem. You have had success many times before, so I'm sure that that was a factor.

Author:	Aquarius [ Mon Jan 21, 2013 9:58 am ]
Post subject:	Losing interest
Last weekend i was out with 2 friends and sarging, but the same thing happend to me and one of my friends over and over again. We opened some two sets and started talk for a while but always when we were in the middle of a conversation one of the girl would whisper something to the other and then they would just like "were gonna meet our friends now, bye" and then leave, it wouldn't be that big of a problem but it happend 3 times in a row under the same night. Did we fail to keep them both entertained at the same time or did one of us failed to keep one of them interested? Am I losing it or something? How can I best keep myself interesting?

Author:	Spark Plug [ Mon Jan 21, 2013 11:42 am ]
Post subject:	Re: Losing interest
Well it's kinda impossible to judge your game when I haven't seen you in action plus you've said next to nothing about what you think it could be that caused that to happen.

Author:	Aquarius [ Mon Jan 21, 2013 12:11 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Losing interest
Quote: Well it's kinda impossible to judge your game when I haven't seen you in action plus you've said next to nothing about what you think it could be that caused that to happen. It's just that, I can't really find out what I did different this time, the only thing would be that I was more drunk than usual so it could have been that, I didn't use as much routine as I use to do because of that and my wingman was in a fight the same night, other than that I don't really know what went wrong.

Author:	gravesRR7 [ Mon Jan 21, 2013 7:54 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Losing interest
It's really hard to say because you haven't said what you were actually doing when this happened, or more importantly, what you had been doing in the minutes leading up to this. That being said. I can only go off generalities. Girls won't leave unless they want to or have to. In a social venue scene, it's rarely bc they have to. So yes, you are mucking this up somewhere. But it may or may NOT be what you are doing directly before this. Sure it could be the current conversation, but likely it is not. Think for a second....if the girl were attracted and having fun, even if the conversation lulls or something, no big deal, she'll even pick it up again (huge IOI right?). But girls don't want to be blatently rude...most of us don't. So they'll flatter you and stick around a bit, either out of courtesy or hoping it'll get better, but most likely because they legit don't want to be rude. Simply put....one of two things happened. 1) You did not do enough attraction. 2) The girls have not been qualified The second one is rough, because they won't qualify themselves unless there's some interest or attraction, but lacking either one of these will surely lead to the girl running away. If you fail to do either of these sufficiently, then you've effectively accomplished the same thing...you're just another guy chatting them up (yeah maybe with some high energy or whatever, but not proper gaming). You say that you were drunk and that your friend had been in a fight. I'm picturing you guys having a really high energy. But a lot of guys use getting drunk as a crutch to be highly energetic, which although is way better than not talking, it is what a lot of guys do. So in a venue where the pickings are slim, you're a sure bet, but in a venue with a lot of high energy guys, you have compromised your ability to evaluate the situation. You're a smart guy it would seem. You have had success many times before, so I'm sure that that was a factor.

Author:	Aquarius [ Tue Jan 22, 2013 12:10 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: Losing interest
Quote: It's really hard to say because you haven't said what you were actually doing when this happened, or more importantly, what you had been doing in the minutes leading up to this. That being said. I can only go off generalities. Girls won't leave unless they want to or have to. In a social venue scene, it's rarely bc they have to. So yes, you are mucking this up somewhere. But it may or may NOT be what you are doing directly before this. Sure it could be the current conversation, but likely it is not. Think for a second....if the girl were attracted and having fun, even if the conversation lulls or something, no big deal, she'll even pick it up again (huge IOI right?). But girls don't want to be blatently rude...most of us don't. So they'll flatter you and stick around a bit, either out of courtesy or hoping it'll get better, but most likely because they legit don't want to be rude. Simply put....one of two things happened. 1) You did not do enough attraction. 2) The girls have not been qualified The second one is rough, because they won't qualify themselves unless there's some interest or attraction, but lacking either one of these will surely lead to the girl running away. If you fail to do either of these sufficiently, then you've effectively accomplished the same thing...you're just another guy chatting them up (yeah maybe with some high energy or whatever, but not proper gaming). You say that you were drunk and that your friend had been in a fight. I'm picturing you guys having a really high energy. But a lot of guys use getting drunk as a crutch to be highly energetic, which although is way better than not talking, it is what a lot of guys do. So in a venue where the pickings are slim, you're a sure bet, but in a venue with a lot of high energy guys, you have compromised your ability to evaluate the situation. You're a smart guy it would seem. You have had success many times before, so I'm sure that that was a factor. I'm grateful for all advice and tip I can get so it's ok to generalize and I think you're right, I didn't build that much of attraction and I'm not that charming when I'm drunk. So from now on it's sober game for me and I will try to be better at establish attraction.

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