Girls have 3 times the connections between their left and right brain, as well as 3 times as many nerves in their genitalia which makes the experience of sex far more pleasurable and far more psychological. Any girl who tells you she doesn't like sex is a downright liar, they like it more than you do. But they've also got an entirely different set of social constraints and expectations. Its not something alien and impossible to understand--in fact the idea "women are from venus and men are from mars" is just something they'd like you to believe because the less you know the less you can use against them. They've also grown up in a society with fear driven advertisements, social pressure and mindless brainwashing for profit. Their ideas about men are based in sensationalist pop media that seeks to exploit scandals and shame with constant hypercritical scrutiny. It demonizes men, demonizes other women, constantly terrorizing their self esteem in public forum.... And the message is clear: If they think this about the most beautiful women in hollywood, what do they think about me? And then it just comes down to the things they fear the most... Which is usually set in stone by middle school age! Thats right, and if anyone has experienced what high school pressure is like for virgin boys... Just know that girls are far more vicious, and instead of their virginity its their purity.
Well, not purity in a traditional sense. Or a religious one, those days have passed. No, mostly peer pressure is about value, and all these "values" are set by pop magazines, television and media... And even to those who don't read pop magazines. You see, women always respect the most beautiful women. Its like somehow their power over men makes them something to look up to. And if a woman is extraordinarily beautiful, chances are she's not just born that way, she's been reading up on how to improve the way she carries herself. And if they've been doing that, chances are they've soaked up at least a bit of pop media bullshit--1000 ways to please your man? Oh please, just suck his dick, play with his balls and make him a sandwich. LMAO thats from dave chappelle but its totally true, the crap you read in those magazines is from people who dont have an ounce of expertise in what they write about and really dont give a shit whats in it as long as it sells. If taking all the women who want to be beautiful and pumping them full of bullshit is what sells, thats what they do, so of course the most beautiful women have radically different ideas about sex! But this fear based society is predictable, and there are ways to set women at ease and get them off the defensive.
The first lie that women are taught is of what VALUE means within a society. They are immediately taught that beauty is above all else valued, and that you can get way more money flashing your tits then you can trying to earn an honest living. Then they're taught that to do this is slutty and they should be ashamed of even trying. First of all, this is hardly the case, women take more jobs then men now at only slightly lower wages (take the 1% out of the equation and its equal... hmmm) and in fact women actually hold more social value with less qualifications. Gender roles, as it seems, have in fact turned on their head--when it used to be men that took the benefit of the doubt in court, now an attractive woman will turn any jury to her whim. Its not that women aren't valued, its that the less attractive women are envious of the women who are overvalued and view THAT as "equality". And they're taught how to rank their own value the same way they rank theirs... By what they can get men to do for them. They'll say it a hundred different ways: I want a good man. I want a provider. I want someone who can take care of me. What it comes down to is worth... And they're constantly the auctioneers of their own self worth, trying to see how high they can get people to bid.
Society is told them the highest bids are the most valuable, but they're essentially doing the same thing they were so afraid of... Whoring themselves out. You see, as soon as you place a value on a good or service and then exchange it for wealth, you're essentially selling it, and selling sex is technically prostitution. And rather than treating people like actual conscious beings, and sex as an experience shared by 2 people, it treats everyone like bidders and sellers at an auction. If you've ever seen two women fighting over a guy, is that not like two different sellers driving down their prices to beat the other one to a sale? Its like applying supply and demand to pussy, on only an "assumed" notion of demand and a synoptic notion of supply.
Those who sell more are worth less, as agreed upon by society as a whole. So what can you do to rid her of that notion? Leave society out of it! Have you ever wondered why forbidden love is such a sexy thing to women?? Its everything they wish they could do, just stop giving a fuck about what society thinks and fling your heart away with some sexy piece of shit. Guys who know how to alleviate their fears of what the rest of the world thinks, and those who know how to take them out of the picture altogether are going to get past this.
When you start to overvalue sex, you start to see other people as "threats" trying to get it. Fear of being that slut who sleeps with every guy keeps them seriously limiting who they let hit it, and the more guys try, the more they will resist. Except, the circuits that run the sexual centers of our brain are far more primal and very easily can an association be made between them and the amygdala. Whenever sexual themes arise, the part of her brain that determines threats is actually the same part judging sexual worth of a partner, since society has created such a strong link between fear and sex. This can possibly be the reason for rape fantasies and sadomasochism, sort of like how horror movies can offer excitement and be an enjoyable experience. At any rate, your girl is probably not some kind of sex starved bondage freak so the best option may be just to get her out of her amygdala!
Distract her, overwhelm her with emotion, give her conscious sensations to pay attention to, these are all things that draw activity away from the part of her brain that determines threats. Let her know that you're not a threat and you're letting her have control over the experience. If she starts getting on your case about sexual themes, she's just trying to punish you for being a man--only because she's just trying to "defend" against a potential threat. If trying to set her at ease doesn't work, tease her for the things that make her girly, reframe the world from a guys perspective where all that glittery princessy stuff is fucking hilarious and easy to make fun of.
Laugh along with her and do it with a grin and a smile so she knows you're not taking things too seriously. Jokes are a good way to change peoples perspectives. Teasing is a great way to get people to doubt their own. Generally i don't like fear or doubt, but i dont mind doubting my fears... So you're really doing them a favor anyway.