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| Author: | Loveu18 [ Wed Dec 12, 2012 2:17 am ] |
| Post subject: | comfort problem |
So lately when i have notice that when ever i go out sarging i always got my target laughing and it seems like im doing good but after my conversations the the really cute girls i want never really seems to be interested in me, after i when out sarging today i came home and meet my sister friend and she wanted to test out my game(she was messing with me). But i did what i knew and her feedback was that i talk too much about myself but she liked me and find me suductive but im terrible at comfort.. I was wondering if someone can help me with my comfort building and rapport building. |
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| Author: | Andre2807 [ Wed Dec 12, 2012 5:29 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: comfort problem |
Comfort: I use one routine in comfort, and that is, The Cube. Style's Elicit Values routine is a small NLP routine that's also made for comfort building. Other than that, you can use mirroring to build rapport. Match her body language, voice tonality and even emotional state subtly. It's also important to break rapport by teasing her or just disagreeing with her, or playing a humorous kino game. Building and breaking rapport is a good form of push and pull. |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Wed Dec 12, 2012 12:49 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: comfort problem |
Comfort is the first stage. It's fairly simple. I look at comfort as a way to alleviate the initial concern every woman has about the guy she is talking to: "Is this guy a serial killer or rapist, and what does he want from me?" You quickly want to let her know that you are not a loner, which is a red flag. You can do this by showing you are social proof. Mention your "buddies" or a girlfriend you had. Show her that you belong to some larger group, like a sports team or a social network of some kind. Having a facebook page with a lot of friends helps. Rapport, that's a little more complex. Using routines like the cube, DHV stories, telling jokes--all of that helps. But don't turn into an orator. Take a break from being the entertainer and ask her some probing questions to get her yapping about herself. Stare into her eyes, reply back appropriately, and try to find commonalities based on what she's telling you. This is alsow where you can start breaking rapport and using push pull. One minute you agree with her and tell her she sounds very interesting. Then she says something you don't like and you tell her she sucks and she could never be your type. |
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