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Author:  Hijo de Puta [ Sat Nov 03, 2012 6:15 am ]
Post subject:  Please help me not beta backslide
Some of you may have read my other posts and ive been sarging. I've been having great success but i have been seeing the same girl for about a month now and I feel it is getting serious. Tonight i told her that i liked her and she made it seem like she wanted to come over. I fell asleep for a few hours and text and call her but shes ignoring me, and I know shes up because my friend saw her. I only called once but texted maybe 3 times and feel myself beta backsliding with this girl. I think we may date but I don't want to date her if i cant control my emotions. I need some reassurance from the community, because I always tend to fuck this up at this point.

I get the thought that she is with another guy and thats why she is ignoring me and I feel myself getting jealous over it without even knowing if its true. I have no reason to think shes got another guy, especially cause we have been fucking for the past 5 nights and shes stayed over. Maybe she just wants a break but it bothers me that she couldn't send me a text like "hanging out with friends ill text you tomorow" or something lke that

Anyways, I don't know how to react here, it bothers me and i dont wanna be with a girl that would openly ignore me because I would never do that to her. But I don't know whether to ignore her for a day or two to freeze her out to maybe stop this behavior, or if i should just talk to her tomorrow when she texts me like nothing happened.

Inside i'm pissed, and I know i'm being beta, i need some motivation here guys, help, advice.

I know even if she is with another guy my attitude should be he won't compare and she'll want me over him, but its hard right now, i need people to tell me what i need to hear
Author:  Txacoli [ Sat Nov 03, 2012 5:04 pm ]
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She's not with another guy, she thinks of you all the time. Give her space, the gift of missing you ;) Man up and be the fucking player, think of it as chess or poker, don't let your emotions cloud your judgement. She's probably thinking of you way more than you think, just don't let your insecurities get to you. Don't get needy and clingy with the messages, just control the urge to contact her.
Never forget you two hook up because both of you want it, not just because you want it. Give yourself some credit, understand why she's attracted to you and give her more of that. Please, please, don't make the mistake of losing yourself over a girl, it's never worth it, never ever.
In the end, f you're miserable all of the time since you're hooking up with her, something is wrong with that picture. There are succubas out there, emotional vampires, just be careful.
Author:  Hijo de Puta [ Sat Nov 03, 2012 11:10 pm ]
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well looks like i was half right, she texted me that night and said what are you doing, and i said you should have hit me up earlier im going to bed now.

She said i hope this doesnt sound bad but i went to dinner with this guy cause he asked me a few weeks ago but i felt really bad and pretty much the whole time wished i was with you.

I was pretty pissed but i just said "haha thats fine its just dinner dont worry about it" and left it at that. I've been acting normal since, but i feel like i shouldnt hang out with her tonight even though she wants to.

we aren't dating so she really didnt do anything wrong, but if she slept with him it would be kinda fucked up cause i fucked her that morning.
Author:  Hijo de Puta [ Sat Nov 03, 2012 11:11 pm ]
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thank you txacoli, i definitely needed to hear that.
Author:  Chinopants [ Sat Nov 03, 2012 11:47 pm ]
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I hate to say if but I slip and fall But..... Then I learn and remember what works and keep moving forward. It is a chess game and you must keep your head in the game. Also if you do lose don't give up just reset the board and play again.
Author:  Txacoli [ Sun Nov 04, 2012 9:19 am ]
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The good thing is that she was honest with you. She clearly has some feelings for you and it's a good sign. She was missing you the whole time, did you hang out in the end?
Author:  Hijo de Puta [ Mon Nov 05, 2012 4:10 am ]
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yes she came over slept over, i just acted like i didn't care about dinner. made one or two joking remarks like "did you atleast bring me leftovers?"

Things seem to be fine, just kinda gives me a different view of her, but probably a more realistic one, so i needed that.
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