I'm not a kino expert, in fact I'm dealing with kino situations very often.
Anyways.
Good ways to get rid of the discomfort of being hugged
1. You be the hugger (even if it feels weird to you because you dont hug or don't get hugged often) People tend to find it natural, normal and even desireable to be hugged.
2. If you live with your family, hug them, even if they're not that used to it. They surely wont reject you badly and it gives you a place to practice the proper way.
3. Even with my kino situation, I can tell you something (because I didnt have this problem before)...
Kino is something that you do from your balls. Being touchy and daring to touch a woman is a matter of how big your balls are ( in a way). Do not rationalize the act of touching her arm, leg or hands. Just Do it. Your brain wants to touch her, your body wants it too, your heart might even want it as well, so what do you need? Pull the trigger; grabb your balls and do it.
Strech your hand while you talk, place it on her shoulders (like you're going to hug), squeeze a bit, smile, take your hand away, keep talking, that's it.
Do not focus your attention on the touch.
Just do it: Example. You're sitting at a coffee shop, next to each other. Both your hands and hers are on the table, you're talking about something, you know, just chit chat. Try grabbing her finger while you tell her a story about how amusing and crazy your cat/dog/turtle or whatever you can think of, is, let her finger go.
Think of it this way. We, as babies, start taking small steps in order to learn to walk properly, right? So you need to take small steps.
Be a hugger, be confident that people won't be troubled by a guy that likes to express gratitude or affection with a hug. This is, to my opinion, one of those things that we men do have in comon with women. No one really dislikes to feel affection, even if it feels weird at times.
Just try it man, just be confident to touch her in a friendly non-agressive way (by non agressive I mean, non sexual way).. If you aren't used to kino you wont be able to handle sexual touch that easy.
Trust me men. Women like to be hugged and touched. Period. It's just a matter of getting rid of the anxiety and going for it
Just remember.
Be a hugger.
Be friendly.
Do not concentrate on the touch.
Talk, smile or laugh while you hug or touch her
Small steps: First squeeze her shoulders, then her waist, then her butt (but not yet)
