*Thanks a lot* killswitchengage & sika for your hints and encouraging words!
I'm a little late with this response, but things have been getting better so far as I notice my old knowledge come back via experience.
There's some techniques that worked, but I'm refusing to use them, as I find many of those stupid now - trying alternatives.
It's very likely that I exuded too much neediness and I definitely failed to take things lightly.
h2. So in the fashion of my first post, here are some updates on how things changed so far
* Girl enters my cabin in the train, asks if there was space left. I reopen, we chat and I give her my number "in case she happens to be in my region". I abstain from getting hers. Some hours later I receive a text: "Let me know too, when you're in my area."
* Two girls stand behind me in a club. As I turn round they seem to be waiting for me to step aside in order to let them pass. Instead, I open. Later we bounce. Some 3-4 text messages the next day. She asks how I am, I respond that I just went to bed & wish good night. She responds with "Ah I am at [BAR]". I go dead air. Three days later she writes again and three more days later, we have a D2 & 3, with the night together - making out on my couch. Funny: Her texts are as short as can be and she never writes stuff like "kiss", but so far she always responds. Guess that's due to bad experience with her ex. Things are still interesting.
* I open two girls at a party. Blonde seems to be attracted. Both are sexy. I am am unable to decide, but for some reason I am feeling _slightly_ more interested in black-haired one. So I kino-escalate with her more than with the other. We walk to the car - hand in hand with both. Though I had let her call my phone in order to exchange numbers, I abstain from calling her. Three days later I get a text message. As she seemed interested, I directly asked her out some days ago, but it was on very short notice, so she refused - The cute thing about it was, how she made sure I understood that is _really_ was only due to the short notice and that any other time would be good. Met her two days ago. Still in touch.
* And here's a funny & interesting side experience at a clubbing:
4 girls, all hot. I open the first with "Hello hello!". She gives me a disgusting look, which would usually be repelling to me - she suddenly looked so ugly. I turn to next and repeat. Same thing. I turn to third - same reaction. "Okay one last chance - Hello hello" to the forth. She reacts a _little_ nicer.
I ( my approach
) was getting rejected four times in a row, but I actually felt very powerful. Making them react in a predictable manner was like playing a computer game - "If I press this button, that will happen". Anyways I stay persistent, since I learnd to do so until I get blown out big time. I tell them that I refuse to believe they were like that and that they were only "acting like bitches". And suddenly the girls become nice and friendly. Instantly one has one of the cutest sparkles in her eyes, I've ever seen. They explain that they're all taken and point out their 5th friend as the one without a boyfriend.* At the same clubbing some time before I was really annoyed and angry as some girl had accidently burnt me with her cig. Heads on I still open a girl and talk the dumbest rubbish I probably ever heard myself saying in an opener. Not only do I feel like running out of things to say every half-a-second, also I notice the anger in my communication. And what happens? The girl re-initiates two times when I stop talking. I loosen up and we get a great & fun convo running. As her friend wants to leave, my friend who'd entered meanwhile tells her that it would be a pity as things were very likeable. She agrees and notes that we really were some of the nicest persons she's met that evening and gives us her number. I run into her later and we have some brief chats. Just got an answer to text I sent today.
I've also had an experience were I'd taken a girl home who was the best looking of that evening, but even though my friends found her hot, I failed in bed as I lacked attraction. So since then I only focus on the really *hot* ones.
I do guess I have to handle them differently in a manner and get my game tight, but I also believe that I am doing, something differently (i.e. wrong) as compared to the ones were it works - simply due to being more nervous, less direct, ...
And most of the time I am actually disinterested in talking, which is probably the reason my opening sucks. I'd prefer to go straight for the kiss, take-home or the like ... and find out over the course of time how we relate.
Life's Good
DICE